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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

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So.. um. My best friend is starting the last year of high school this year, and her mom is very sick and is going to die. Lately she has been in a very bad psychological state, depressed and stuff like that. She has been drinking quite a lot, and when she was drunk the other day she started telling me stuff like she doesn't know what to do if her mother dies, and half her life is going to go away and stuff like that. She also said she's happy she has all of us (her friends) and stuff, but generally she sounded like she was really in a horrible mental state.

Can you please give me advice on what I can do?

Well, my best friend's father passed away last November. It wasn't known like your friend knows, but maybe my situation can help.

The best thing you can do is be a friend. Obviously, she'll need her friends to be there for her to just listen to her and be there, even if you have nothing to say, but she also will need time to be alone and think.

For now, tell your friend to spend as much time with her mother as possible, which I hope she will.

Once her mother is gone, be a good friend. Try to get her mind off of it, but at the same time, if she wants to talk about it, by all means do.

I guess my advice is for you to be there for her and be as good of a friend as you can.

--Jack
(17/m)

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