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Hi, I'm Brittney, I'm a junior in college. don't ever feel hesitant to ask me a question, I will never judge you. Be completely honest and I will give you the best answer I can give, 100% of the time. A fun fact about me- I'm a triplet!

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I am a 24 year Male from India. I am a Gay and I always wanted to live a bachelor life in peace. I graduated 1 year back and I had a problem with my family regarding my post graduation and future career. And I fractured my right elbow 6 months back in a motorbike accident because my brother forced me to learn to drive motorbike. I told him I was scared to drive. I had to undergo surgery to fix my elbow with pins and screws. It still hurts. Nobody else know that I am gay. I dont honestly want a gay marriage either.
Doctor told me I cannot lift heavy weights again. It feels terrible to think that I have to live alone with a compromised right arm all my life and I spent 3 hours finding out ways to commit suicide in google. The thought of the moment of accident is just painful. I need someone to encourage me and advice me. Please help!!!!!

I cant honestly tell you I understand what you are going through, because I dont. But I can help you. Last wednesday my friend (male) went through open heart surgery for 8 hours. 4 of the 8 hours, his heart was stopped, it was a 50% chance of them getting his heart to start pumping again. Even though he survived the surgery, he cannot go on a rollercoaster, lift weights, run, or participate in any physical activities whatsoever for the rest of his life.
Im extremely sad for you that your elbow is hurt, its obviously not fun at all. But you can take on other things too, because at least you have other options. How about soccer? that focuses mostly on legwork, so you dont need uper body strength. You sound like a very smart person, and even if you dont know it, your family really cares about you.
Sometimes we dont realize what we have in front of us, until we loose it.
What I am trying to say is that Im sure your brother didnt intentionally make you go on a motor cycle to hurt you. And your family really does care about you, as well as your friends.
Suicide is simply not the answer. You are much better than that.
Sometimes we all just need to forgive and forget, and hey, maybe you can just lift smaller weights, for now.
As for being gay, I think thats great. Its who you are, and thats okay. You are no different than anyone else, just that you like the same sex as you. I just want you to know that there is nothing wrong with that. If anyone doesnt accept it, than they will just have to live with it. Your never going to change, so they mine as well live with it, get over it, and still see you for who YOU truely are, not who you like.
If you need anymore help, you can always talk to me.
Never get down on yourself, and live life the way YOU want to live it. :-)

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(Rating: 5) Thankyou very very much for your kind advice!
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