For a long time now I have suspected that my father has been cheating on my mother. It's not necessarily that he's suspiciously left the house or anything, just that I'd noticed a lack of love between my parents. The, one day, I went to ask him something, and I saw a "sexsearch" website on the computer screen. I chose to ignore it and pretended I hadn't seen it. A few months past, and I was looking for the iPod my mother had taken away from me when I stumbled upon an unused condom in a draw next to my dad's side of the bed. Once again, ignoring it, although I was emotionally scarred just by the fact that it was there. Anyway, just a few hours ago, my mother, whom is technologically illiterate, asked me to pull something up from her history. She had been searching for a puppy, but got misdirected and did not want to have to perform the search again. I promptly did so, and stupid me couldn't help but look at the history from two weeks prior. Sex, sex, sex, and I know it wasn't my mom. I can understand viewing porn, but there was a site that was something to the tune of "search for sex in your city." I was mortified, but I couldn't let my mother see that. I very well know it is not place to say anything about it, but I can't help but feel bad. My mother is very ditzy and most likely hasn't the slightest clue as to what's going on. That makes me feel even worse. The only thing I don't understand is when he's doing these activities. He doesn't leave the house or anything...although a few nights ago he did leave without saying anything. So I ran upstairs to check where the condom had been before, and it was still there. Sooo, I'm confused. I had also seen something in 7th grade where we was doing a sexual RP with some angel67675 or something like that. I would like to believe that that is all he is doing, sense that would make the most sense. However, his recent disappearance worries me. Whether he's cheating or not, I won't mention it until my brother is out of college (he's 9 now and I'm 16) because I don't want him to have such a traumatizing experience at his age, or at any point in his childhood. And unfortunately, my mother is ditzy enough that she'll probably never notice either. Anyway, any sort of advice you can give would be much appreciated.
My mother and my step-father were married for 16 years. When I was 7 years of age, my mother started to discuss her marital issues with me... At 16, she told me that she suspected that he was cheating on her and asked me to hack into his email account. I did. We didn't find anything... But that isn't the point.
The point is... That when two people are experiencing marital difficulties, including infidelity, those issues are their business and should remain their business only. I know that you're concerned... And I applaud your sensitivety to the situation. But this is not your problem. If you try to make it your problem you're just going to hurt yourself. It will also negatively impact the relationship you have with both your parents.
So... Whether or not your dad is cheating... Whether or not your mother is clueless... Let the so-called adults take care of themselves. This simply isn't your responsibility. I know how difficult it can be to step away from a situation like this... And really, I totally sympathize with you. But... Step away, dear.
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I already did that, but thanks for reaffirming my decision. ^^;
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