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ok, this is going to be a little long but if you are interested then plz read and answer. So i am 21 year old girl who doesnt have much self confidence. I know im not ugly because i have heard million times how beautiful i am(not trying to sound conceded). I have never had a boyfriend and never madeout with a guy or anything. It's proabbly because i have such low self esteem. I really want a boyfriend and stuff but i have a hard time getting close to guys. I am too shy and sometimes when they talk to me i don't know what to say in return and then i feel like an idiot. The only time i get more comfortable with a guy is when i drink which is not often. I really want to get close to a guy but i am also very nervous to because i guess u can call me prude, but i don;t want to be im just not comfortable with the situation. One of the reasons being beccause i have never madeout with a guy before and i don't want to look like an idiot if i suck or dont do it right seeing as i am 21 years old and its weird that i have never madeout with anyone. I really wanna be less shy around guys and be more comfortable but i'm really shy and i want to get over that because it's driving me crazy that i don't have a boyfriend. PLEASE HELP!!!!
1. Don't stress out because you're 21 and don't have a boyfriend. This day in age... People are waiting. Women are putting off relationships to pursue careers, accomplish life goals, etc. Many are waiting until they're in their thirties to get married. My point is: don't rush. You've got plently of time to find Mr. Right.
2. Please work on your low self-esteem before getting into a relationship. Your self-image and whether or not you love yourself drasticly effects your relationships. Someone that does not know how to love themself has a hard time receiving love from others, as well as giving it.
How to boost your self-esteem? It's not easy. You can try reading some self help books or even look into therapy. This is something you will have to work on, it's a process, and it will take a while.
3. Don't worry about whether or not you're good at flirting or kissing. I've never been very good flirting, but I am a nice person and know how to be myself. A lot of guys respond to that alone. As for the physical stuff... To be perfectly honest, I don't think that anyone is good at it. Seriously. I've kissed a lot of guys and most of them were bad kissers. But after a while they get better at it.
Basicly, what I'm trying to tell you is this... Don't sweat it. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin and the rest will fall into place. I promise :)
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