Brandi_S's advice column

I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.

I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.

Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.

Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.

I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.

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I posted a question about the dogs in my house fighting a while back. well, I have now found out that it is in fact my dog that initiates these fights. He has shown some very bad signs in the past year, he nipped my son's face (there is no more contact between them since) and lately he has been starting very vicious fights with my boyfriend's dog. Well, I see that my dog is not good to have around because I cannot trust him with my child around and so he barely gets enough attention from me and now he is fighting with his only other companion. I love this dog so much, he is so obedient to me and shows me so much love...but I know I cannot have him, especially since my boyfriend says I have to get rid of him. I cannot take him to the shelter because he will get euthanized, and if I take him to the no-kill shelter I am afraid no one would want him because I would have to tell them he is not good with kids or other animals. I love my dog but know I cannot have him, what should I do? Any ideas would help. thanks

There are many people who don't have kids around who love dogs. Especially loving, obedient dogs.

I understand the love you have for your dog. I'm a dog lover, too. Every dog I've ever had was a family member. However, when that family member becomes untrustworthy and potentially dangerous, we have to keep them away from our kids, as much as that can hurt our hearts to do that.

Take him to the no-kill shelter. Like I said, somebody out there doesn't have kids and other animals, and they will be glad to provide him a loving home. That is your best bet right now, considering word of mouth most likely won't get him out of your home as quickly.

I know you probably think that a rude thing to say- get him out quickly. But being a mother, also, I'd say quickly is the best thing. He's nipped your son's face and is getting a bad temperament. If he were to do more than nip your son, what would his fate be then?
Best not to put your son, your dog, yourself, into that position.

I know it's hard and it hurts, but take him to that shelter.

ygs-30/f

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(Rating: 5) thanks, you were not rude. Its the truth and I need to just do it. I am not looking forward to worrying about him constantly though. And I did put him up on craigslist for a month but no one was interested

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