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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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i finally had sex with my bf.
and i feel great about it
i think i was mentally prepared and ready for it
i didn't rush into or anything...but

will he expect me to have sex with him all the time now?

when will it stop hurting?

and is he going to be expecting me to do more of the work...or try new kinky things?

please don't tell me to ask him
thats why im asking you lol

thanks

Ok, listen. You do not have to do anything you do not want to do. So, if you do not feel like having sex again for a while after this, that is your decision. If he is an understanding boyfriend, he will respect your wishes.

It will stop hurting once you get used to it. It does take time.

Sexual experiences are different for different people. As you grow sexually, you will want to try new things, but you will be the judge of when you are ready and what things you want to try.

I will say two very important things.
~1~ Communication in any relationship is key. If you feel that it is okay to have sex with him, then communication should be no problem. If you do not communicate with your boyfriend, then you are going to have problems later on.
~2~ Also, always practice safe sex. You do not need to add to your worries by getting pregnant or a sexually transmitted disease.

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