I'm 16/f
My older sister is almost 20, still living in our parents house, un-employed, and about to quit college. My dad doesn't really say anything about it, but my mom is now heck-bent on me going to a top-notch college, getting a job as soon as possible, and all the things I want to do socially with friends doesn't even matter. I understand that they don't want me to end up like my sister, but I find it unfair. They were never this hard on her, and let her decide. Heck, she didn't even get her drivers license until last year! And now it's gotten to the point where they are catering to her every need and pushing me out into the world without warning. With that said, How do I talk to my parents about this? I want to do all of these things (drive,work,etc.) but at MY own pace.
Thanks,
AngryYoungerSister
Well, you can start off by stating to them that you clearly see the mistakes your sister is making and have no intentions of repeating them, because not only do you learn from the mistakes you make but you also learn from other peoples mistakes too. As a parent I can clearly see both sides of this dilemma. In your first child, you have high hopes, you encourage, baby and give in to their every whim. Then something snaps and you begin to ask yourself, is this the way I want my child to behave? Instead of trying to correct that child's behavior, you push your agenda on the younger one in hopes that somehow, you can correct the mistakes you made with the first one. What parents often fail to realize is the individualization of each child. I was also the number two child, so I paid for the sins of my brother. Just try to understand that your parents do love you and care about you or else they wouldn't be concerned about your future. It may seem pointless now, but it will make you a better person in the end.
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Thanks for taking the time to read my question. I'll try my hardest to keep this in mind, and look towards the bigger picture. Again, thank you!
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