AngelofMercy's advice column

I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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ok, here's the deal, I have a 30 yr old cousin. I'm 16, We've always been really close but now there's a problem. I'm in love with him. no it's not a crush. I've felt like this for the past year. I can't stop thinking about him and I finally told him how I feel. o, btw, srry. He's my 2nd cousin. Not 1st. anyway, I told him and he said he feels the same way. Problem is, neither of us knows what to do. No, we haven't slept together or anything it's just that we're both in love with eachother. what do I do? Plz help.

I am not telling you that I believe you should pursue this issue with your much older cousin, but oddly, I found a link of which states allow cousins to wed. Here is the link: http://www.cousincouples.com/info/states.shtml
Here are some facts about marrying cousins: http://www.cousincouples.com/info/facts.shtml
Here is an article about marrying cousins:http://www.slate.com/id/2064227/
Here is a link about statutory rape laws by state, it can show you what age is defined as under age and the consequences of the offender:http://www.cga.ct.gov/2003/olrdata/jud/rpt/2003-R-0376.htm

I would like to point out some things before I leave you with all these sites to look at.

#1- Would you be okay with your family disowning you and your cousin because of your actions? Most people, even though it is legal, frown upon this type of thing. There is a chance you will lose all the people you love. Is it worth it?

#2- Why isn't your cousin married? Does he have any personality traits that women have a problem with and that's why he isn't married? He could be abusive, too controling, or have more deep seeded mental issues that you know nothing about. What would you do if you were in a situation to where you want out, but have forgone all your family and have no where to turn?

#3- Are you really ready to settle down when you are so young? Do you not want to live part of your life as an adult before making such a big decision? This type of decision is different than having a relationship with someone that is not related to you.

All I am saying is to use your common sense and let your gut instinct tell you if this is the right thing to do or not.

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(Rating: 5) 2 answer your questions, my family has already disowned me 4 no reason so that doesn't really concern me and he isn't married bc he's in debt and doesn't want 2 drag any1 down with him. he's a great guy and he also got out of a really bad realtionship and was litterally stabbed and left 2 die. He isn't abusive or anything either. and he does have 1 issue. He's constantly depressed. Other than that, nothing's wrong with him. and yes. i'm ready. thnx 4 the advice.

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