AngelofMercy's advice column

I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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Well my best friend is popular, and really pretty, but she doesnt think so or just likes to be reassured. She is always like im so ugly, noone likes me, im fat, etc. But the thing is, a lot of guys like her, they think shes pretty, and every time i start to like a guy, they start to like my bff I really started to like this guy, like i would do anything for him. I was planning on telling him and my bff this weekend, but he had always had a thing for my bff. Well the day b4 i was going to tell her, she imed me, "OMG "Chris" (code for guy i like) just told me he liked me!!!"

She didnt know i liked him so i told her, oh cool, and shes like i like another guy but i think i might like "chris" too. I was crushed but i didnt know what to say. SHe could get any guy she wants, and i cant even get one guy. I am really sad about this. What can i do to make her stop saying shes not pretty, but make her not think im mad at her? And how do i tell her i like "chris" when she likes him, well KINDA likes him, even though i REALYL like him? and i cant just say, oh well i like chris, its not that simple. Thanks 14/f!

Honestly, it is that simple, just tell her. Let her know that you were working up the nerve to talk to him, but she kind of beat you to the punch. If you two are as good of friends as you say you are, then she should understand. Let her know that you actually really like him, and would like for her to let go of this one.

On approaching her with the "I'm not pretty" part, just tell her "yes, you are very pretty, every guy seems to find you attractive for some reason or another, you wish she could get over her low self-esteem, because she has no reason to be." Of course, she could be one of those ego-maniacs that want to hear all the time of how pretty others think she is, just to keep her morale up, but considering she seems to not have this characteristic, I think your safe.

Friends are suppose to be able to talk to each other about everything and anything. I would see no reason why these two subjects would be any different. Just try to be honest and not catty, and I am sure that things will work out for the best.

I would like to say though, even though you express interest to her about "Chris", he may not share the same feelings for you. Just be prepared to be turned down, because he already has his sights set on your friend.

Good Luck!

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(Rating: 3) Well, idk i dont think shed understand but w.e, and and shes really pretty but idk if she thinks she is, thanks though

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