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Q: ok. i'd first like to thank everyone who has been answering my other quistions. I greatly apriciate it. BUt lets hope this is the final chapter. ( probably wont be) lol But ok here it goes. Since my mom new abot my boyfriend and i, I told him that I told my mom, that his bro and his bros gf had sex, ( knowing she wouldnt care) but my bf told his bro. ANd his bro is mad at me, and I know he has a right to be, cause I do get into other peoples buissness, but i'm working on it. N e ways, he got his gf ( who was my bf) mad at me. Were talking now, but i feel she has a right to be mad at me. But I mean, he's ALLWAYS butting in on mine and my bfs phone conversations. SO what do I do? Or what would you do?

There is nothing you can do about your boyfriend's brother's girlfriend, other than ignore her if she bothers you. If you happen to catch her butting in on your phone conversations (which she has no right to do), then bring it up to her.

As for you, if you feel that you are always getting into other people's business, then try hard not to. Every now and then we all get a little nosy, but the key is to restrain yourself and have some respect for other people's personal life. It's good to hear that you are trying to work on that. Try not to gossip about other people, or tell other people's secrets to others-even if you are not explicitly told not to tell. Just try keeping things to yourself as much as you can, and don't beat yourself up over it. Also, you might want to talk to your boyfriend about why he went and told his brother about what you said...although they are brothers, it wasn't right of him to talk about something you said (especially since it applies to his brother). If I were you, I would just let him know, without getting mad, that he shouldn't tell his brother everything you say about him next time. He should get the point, and at least know your boundaries. In the meantime, practice setting them for yourself.

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ok thanks this helps alot.

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