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help part 4
ok. i'd first like to thank everyone who has been answering my other quistions. I greatly apriciate it. BUt lets hope this is the final chapter. ( probably wont be) lol But ok here it goes. Since my mom new abot my boyfriend and i, I told him that I told my mom, that his bro and his bros gf had sex, ( knowing she wouldnt care) but my bf told his bro. ANd his bro is mad at me, and I know he has a right to be, cause I do get into other peoples buissness, but i'm working on it. N e ways, he got his gf ( who was my bf) mad at me. Were talking now, but i feel she has a right to be mad at me. But I mean, he's ALLWAYS butting in on mine and my bfs phone conversations. SO what do I do? Or what would you do?
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As humans, we're naturally curious about what goes on around us. Sometimes we say things which other would like to keep private. I've expreianced this with my friend who goes around, telling people about my personal life, even though i've tols him thousands of times not to, but he continues you (not a very mature mind).
Just be paitient and keep calm, there is no point in getting annoyed over something which could bring up something which you'd might regret in the future.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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You should calm down. If anything, you could explain that you told your mom just to make your own situation (you having sex, that is, not the mom freaking out part) more normal. Explain that your mom isn't going to rat them out (if she isn't planning on telling his parents). Tell him that you are sorry that you told something about his personal life to your mom. And that's all you can do. Eventually he'll get over it.
And now about what you'll do about yourself: don't blame yourself or beat yourself up. It's pretty normal to just vent random information to parents, because they aren't usually that involved in friend's social lives anyway and therefore they are a good, level-headed sounding board at times.
Have you told your parents about your decision not to have sex for a while? This may ease some of the tension. In the mean time, try not to get too upset at everyone though it seems like a lot of people are somewhat unfairly pointing their fingers at you. Listen to some calming music and just generally act nicer and more responsible around parents, siblings, ect. until this whole situation blows over.
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There is nothing you can do about your boyfriend's brother's girlfriend, other than ignore her if she bothers you. If you happen to catch her butting in on your phone conversations (which she has no right to do), then bring it up to her.
As for you, if you feel that you are always getting into other people's business, then try hard not to. Every now and then we all get a little nosy, but the key is to restrain yourself and have some respect for other people's personal life. It's good to hear that you are trying to work on that. Try not to gossip about other people, or tell other people's secrets to others-even if you are not explicitly told not to tell. Just try keeping things to yourself as much as you can, and don't beat yourself up over it. Also, you might want to talk to your boyfriend about why he went and told his brother about what you said...although they are brothers, it wasn't right of him to talk about something you said (especially since it applies to his brother). If I were you, I would just let him know, without getting mad, that he shouldn't tell his brother everything you say about him next time. He should get the point, and at least know your boundaries. In the meantime, practice setting them for yourself.
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