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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice. I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.
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Okay, my best friend sister is prego. she i guess 6-7 months.who really gives a fuck!.my boyfriend used to go with her.he 21.she is 18.he stay over there house.thats how i met him anyway.basically being over there cause thats the chill spot or whatever.believe me it is complicated and shit.her mom.everybody calls moms.she knew binky(marcus-my boyfriend) went out with her daughter in the past and shit.her daughter the prego one walked around talking bout him and shit she'd be like Binky and RENEE(his best friend-ride or die)is still fucking.she was telling me this when me and binky was together and shit.I didnt get why she would say that shit.but she did.She be like the only reason RENee would mean mug her is cause binky would stop paying attention to her.and end up focusing on ericka,cici,and alix(all sisters-thats where everybody hang out at.there spot).Alix is my bestie.So is Cici.Ericka cool.i guess.until mother fuckin now.Cause she'd be like.Why would Binky and Renee be arguing if nothing is going on?.Obviously there is becuase they wouldnt be fighting like a couple.Truth be told.Binky dont fuck with renee.i guess.cause they had something at first but then that shit just ended.it aint work out.or so he says.anyway.my friend just told me.binky talked to her mom about moving in with them so he could take care of ericka's baby.im like.for what?.he aint fuck her and get her pregnnt.some other dude did.the other day binky even asked her...DID YOU TALK TO DUDE AND TELL HIM YOU PREGNANT?.she said YEAH,I CALLED HIM.HE SAID HE WILL CALL ME BACK AND HE NEVER DID.well my saying would be.go find that nigga.!
best belive.no nigga would ever run from me like that.so, he aint tell me what was up.But everybody down there knows except me.Just cause im not there doesn't mean i should not know man.it should have been said to me.maybe i'd have a different opinion.but now that it wasnt said to me first.i cant trust him or her.my best friend alix is like.well she think it is good that a guy is willing to step up for another guy that aint doin his job.i told her yeah.if they was together.which they aint.binky is supposed to be with me.she over there defending him.she say she not.but she is.cause she tryna cover up with the shit like.he almighty for trying to raise ericka baby.yeah okay.im lettin that nigga go!.i dont give a fuck if he doest know if it is over or not.cause like i said before.no one told me shit when i just went down there.and the shit just happened today.make it so bad.im down there and he actin like shit aint out place.he had me fooled on some other shit.he'd be like DAMN I LIKE YOUR BODY.DAMN YOUR SEXY.DAMN I THOUGHT I WOULDVE NEVER GOT WITH CAUSE I THOUGHT U WAS WITH ANOTHER NIGGA.he had me played.i thought he was the one.when i fucked him he was like trust me and shit.i dont trust him now.and now i regret ever fucking him.im glad i aint fuck him friday.then he woulve thought he was the shit.i dont get what type of game this nigga playing neither.it bothers me.and im sure bout to approach him bout it.ima wait that shit out.and see what happens.I WILL GET EVEN.
then i talked to him.and i get why he is helpin out with the baby.
but he wants to move with them.and i dont get why.i mean.pampers,diapers,baby food.yeah okay that is helping.BUT MOVING IN? for what?.obviously he wanna be with her.that bothers me.i told him.ITS OBVIOUS YALL STILL GOT FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER.EVERYTIME I WALK UP iN HERE.YALL ALL SITTIN CLOSE.TOO CLOSE!.and he made it seem like it was nothing.he laughed cause im possibly jealous.why wont i?.not of her.eww hell no!.but the fact that she got her head layed up on your chest.lap.feet all layed across you.that bothers me!
i cant stand that shit.he was like TRUST ME.I MEAN U ACT LIKE IM FUCKING HER OR SOMETHING.IM JUST TRYNA COMFORT HER.and im like.what the fuck!.yeah if you was her nigga.
but you mines.not hers.her boo/baby daddy need to step the fuck up and COMFORT HER.not u.
I MEAN SOMEBODY GIVE ME THEIR OPINION.AM I STUBBORN AND SHOULD REALLY TRUST THIS GUY.OR JUST DUMP HIS ASS!.
Ok, I saw this on the main forum and was a little nervous about approaching it, but since you came to me personally, I will answer it.
Ok, first things first, I understand that you are upset, which it seems you have every right to be, however, nothing good can come out of this situation if you don't try and be calm and rational.
You need to take him aside, without all the other people around. Guys tend to get defensive when they are cornered by someone in front of other people. After you get him to come talk to you alone, remain calm and remember that you don't have to put up with someone that treats you like shit. At any time that you feel uncomfortable with him and the way the conversation is going, tell him that when he can calm down, then you will talk to him.
Be honest and forthcoming. If you give him the respect and room to explain, things could be solved peacefully. Let him know that if you two are going to be a couple then you need for him to respect you as well. Tell him that it hurts you to see him around this other girl in this manner, friends or otherwise. Tell him that even though you realize that he is allowed to have friends, there should be boundaries on the way he behaves with those friends. Also, let him know that if you two are a couple, then he should have had the balls to come to you and ask you how you would feel about this situation, instead of just bringing it up with her first and leaving you out in the dark. Let him know that the reason this is bothering you so much, is the fact that he is pretty much treating you like a f*ck buddy without considering your feelings at all. (I am assuming that this is a lot of what you are feeling)
If you talk to him and try to be calm and respectful, he may see you in a different light and actually appreciate that more than being a bitch about it. By all means, I agree that you have every right to be a bitch to him, but that old expression comes to mind, "you catch more flies with honey, than with vinegar". I'm pretty sure you understand what that means.
Just remember, stay calm, be respectful, if things get out of hand, walk away and take a breather. Above all else, remember that you are in control of your own destiny and should do what makes you happy and feel good about yourself.
(Rating: 5) thanks so much. i know my grammar is terrible.i just copied it from my myspace and pasted it over again.i didnt feel like re-typing..but i was just so mad.and i talked to him.