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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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Although intercourse did initially hurt when my boyfriend and I first became active, it is far less painful now and actually feels good. So I'm alright with the intercourse but when he tries to finger me, it's painful. I'm just perplexed as to why two fingers hurts more than intercourse. His package is wider than two fingers so I don't understand. He thought he needed to clip his fingernails but they are quite trimmed and neat when he does it. Plus, it isn't that kind of pain. Any thoughts?

I would guess it could be two things, or a combination of both. First, he could be inserting his digits incorrectly making it more uncomfortable than his penis. His penis doesn't have a bone in it *strangely enough, given one of it's "nicknames"*, so it doesn't have that working against it. When his finger bones hit your pelvic bone, it can be a painful experience. Work around at new positioning of his fingers to see if it works better one way than another.

Also, he could be doing it when it's not wet enough to work comfortably. Try using a lubricant or more foreplay first.

I hope I've helped. Good Luck!!

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(Rating: 5) Thanks. We do use lube, but no help. I guess it's the other thing.
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