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ok so here it goes. im 13,f, and one of my best friends is 14,f. well she went out with this kid whos 15, m, and they were pretty serious for like 4 months. well one day SHE broke up with HIM for reasons unknown. he has had relashionships after, yet she hasnt. anyways its been at like 6 months since they broke up and hes obviousley gotten over her but she jsut cant shake him. anyways, over the last couple of weeks me and him have been hanging out and tonight he had his arm around me and we were like makign out and stuff. i honestly dont know if this is just like a friends with benefits thing or if he wants something more, but either way... i dont know whether to tell my friend or not. i mean i like him now, and theyve been over for like 6 months and SHE endded it. i would feel awful if she had like legit feeelings for him but i wanna be able to be with him freeely. any suggestions on how i should handle this? thank you so much sorry this was sooooo amazingly long,

Honestly, I think you should stick by your friend.
Because I have learnt from experience that boys come and go, no matter what they say, how much you two 'promise' you will be together forver. In the end promises are just words.
And best friends mean more than ANYONE in the world.
Remember if she is a truely genuine good friend she will be the one who will still be there for you when the time comes when you and this boy aren't together anymore.
You don't want to go and wreck a great friendship over the sake of a boy who you aren't going to stay long with anyway.
I know that sounds harsh, but that is reality love. You are only young, it is stupid to believe you can be with the boy you like now. You will have many boyfriends in your lifetime. Now when you're young its just time to have fun.
But friends stick by you for life.
Also, think about what your best friend would be feeling about you and her ex. Imagine if that was you.

I hope I could help you.
Good luck. And I hope you do make the right decision.
xx

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