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So theres this guy whos kinda my friend. He likes me and i dont like him. I'm sorry but i could never like him. Hes just not doing it for me. Hes sweet, but hes not friends with my friends, and hes like my little brother. Hes going to ask me out. What do i do?

Also, my close girlfriend has a boyfriend who told me he loved me the day after he asked my friend out! i said i didnt like him but he said that he wouldnt give up on me. Its so weird because he didnt break up with his gf! i dont know whether to tell my friend or not.

What should i do about both guys??

For the first guy: just be honest with him, and do it right away. Don't beat around the bush about it. When he asks you out, just tell him, "I really, really like you as a friend, but I just don't have feelings for you as a boyfriend. But I really want our friendship to continue!" Yeah, he'll be disappointed, but he'll get over it. And guys really do get over these things quicker than you think! The sooner you let him know, the sooner he can move on. It's much better than dragging things out and making him think there's hope when there's not.

For the other guy: I wouldn't tell your friend about it... that will probably only cause trouble with your friendship. But I would say something to her boyfriend. Next time he says something to you about liking you, tell him, "I'm sorry, but I could never go out with a guy who cheats on his girlfriend. And telling your girlfriend's friend that you love her is pretty much the same as cheating. If you're doing this to my friend, you'd probably do it to me, too... and I don't go out with guys like that."

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