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I am SICk of sucking up to people but i don't no how to say no.

I jsut hate ti when people have any negative feelings towards me, even like the slightest feeling of annoyed.

Everyone knows that I have some money so they always ask for money but I need the money to last me a week for lunch and i can't say no so I'll give them like 1 dollar

and then in two days, no money.

what should i do?

Just tell them, "Sorry, I wish I could lend you some money, but I need it for lunch this week." That's all you have to say. If they keep begging you, just look real sad and keep saying, "Sorry, I wish I could, but I can't." No one will think badly of you... they'll actually respect you more! It may seem like people will like you more if you do whatever they want, but actually people don't have much respect for someone who lets everyone walk all over them. Just be nice about it, but be firm and stand your ground!

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