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"Though its been a while now
I can still feel so much pain
Like a knife that cuts you the wound heals
But the scar, that scar remains..." -Poison, Every Rose Has It's Thorn.
My name's Ammo and I'm here to give any help or advice on anything that I can. :] Firstly, if you were kind enough to come here and read up on me, I thank you.
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I have a guy friend who for the last 3 days has called me every night and we have talked on the phone for hours. I’m house sitting at the moment and he knows that I’m by myself. He tells me that he calls and talks to me cause he doesn’t want me to be bored or alone. I do have a problem though. He is engaged, but he hardly ever sees her, and when they talk on the phone it’s only for like 15 minutes. Just the other night I was at his house and his fiancé called. I decided to leave like 5 minutes after she called, so I could head over to the house I’m watching. It’s like a 3 minute drive and he called me before I even got there. So that means he hung up with his fiancé and immediately called me, and we were on the phone for three hours. He called me tonight also, and we were on the phone for another 2 and a half hours. That would make this day number four. Friday night he asked me to go to midnight mayhem with him, but we were going to meet up with his friends first. He had called me earlier in the day and made sure I was still able to go, which I was. So I went and the whole time he was pretty much right next to me. Making sure I was okay, and sitting close enough to where our legs were touching. Then on the way home he kept asking and making sure that I had fun. Which I did. Sorry but I have a couple of questions. 1) Do guys really hate to talk on the phone, and if so is our 2-3 hour conversations a sign he likes me? 2) I want to talk to him and tell him how I feel but I’m not sure how to go about it without ruining our friendship. How do I go about doing this? And 3) What would you do if you were in my position?
I would like to end this though by saying that I have no intentions of doing anything with this man unless he is separated from his fiancé.
Thank You!
Firstly for a guy to have a fiance and be interested in someone else at the same time is a clear indication there's a problem. If that's the case he shouldn't be stringing her along. Playing devils advocate the only thing I can say regarding him leaving her for you is for you to ask yourself how long it'll take before you are in the same position as his fiance is/was (not that it might happen).
Now to the questions you asked. Most guys totally hate talking on the phone but there's a difference between talking to a friend, your gf/fiance and strangers. Mostly people just hate talking to strangers and not the others (even though that's not unknown) but for him to talk to you so long and not his fiance is an indication he may like you - or at least to me it is. Hence I stated above he has a problem if that is the case because he shouldn't be stringing his fiance along unless he knows nothing will come of it (could be nothing more than just a crush).
You've not actually stated exactly how you do feel so I can't comment on that but whenever you do change a friendship into something more there's always the risk there that it could mess things up but then on the other hand it may not. Either way the thing to ask yourself is could you be content with not saying anything at all and being okay with that decision in the long run?
Thankfully I'm not in your position so I won't comment on what I would do in your position. :P I however will say I have been in your position before many times. Kudos to you in not wanting to do anything till he cuts off all ties with the fiance - smart move indeed.
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