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okay so i'm a girl to start this off
oh by the way this is a really long and confusing question
I have a crush on this guy we will call B and he is one of my best friends. Apparently i am a really easy person to figure out because everyone knows i like him. so yesterday i was talking to B's best friend who we will call J on myspace and we get on the topic of B. J keeps telling B that i like him and i want to go out with him which is true but i don't want to tell him that because it might ruin my friendship with B. So J says 'nicole stop denying it everyone knows already that you like him so just admit it'. so i told J that i don't like B like that and if i did it wouldn't matter because he doesn't like me like that anyways. I already know that B doesn't like me like that because on day at school we were talking (Me, J, B, and M [another friend of mine only its a she]) and J was telling him to ask me out and B said 'ew i'm not going to ask her out she's too fat and ugly' right next to me. well anyways J says 'i know he doesn't like you but you like him'. so i pretty much hit rock bottom there and lost all hope of him liking me back so i kept denying it. then i started talking to another friend who i will call BE. BE also thinks i like B so she was bugging me about it too. she was saying things like 'are you guys bicolen now instead of nicole and B?' B said that he thinks that i don't like him and told me to to sent a bulletin that says that i don't like him and to leave him alone. well i didn't want to send the bulletin and J said that i won't send it because i like B which is true but i don't want to tell anyone it is. after that B logged off of myspace and J + BE started send bulletins that said stuff like 'nicole just admit it' and 'we know it and you know it so just say it already'. after a while other people got in on it and they were like 'Nicole likes B???' and 'whens the wedding' (which apparently is today) and stuff like that. i just got tired of being harassed with millions of bulletins, messages, and comments so i logged off. today i got online and B was saying 'what happened when i logged off?' and he messaged me asking for me to explain it and i said i will on monday at school.
so here is the actual question
what do i do? should i tell him that i like him even though i'm pretty sure he doesn't like me or should i just deny it more?

any advice is appreciated and thank you for reading through this really long thing. =)

I think you should send a message to B and say something like, "Look, I don't know how this mess got started, but it's really making me feel bad. For some reason, people want me to say that I like you. I really don't know why they would want me to say that, and it's making me very uncomfortable. So can we please just forget about this? And please tell your friends to leave me alone about it?"

And then you should tell J, "Look, you've already told me that B doesn't like me. So why does it matter whether I like him or not? And why do you want me to say it so bad? What is the point? This is making me feel really bad! Why do you want to make me feel bad? Please, if you're a decent person, will you please stop?"

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