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Hi! You seem really good with advice and I saw you have experience with this stuff so...
Now my bgf wants to act like my bf! In study hall he was kept holding my hand and starting hugging me a lot and stuff. I don't think he should do this if he can't make a committment to me. If he's going to think he can be my bf without even talking about it with me and not committing to me he's crazy. I just don't know what to do. I told him to think about it and he said he will talk to me tom. but what should I do about it? I respect waiting but not if he's going to try abnd act like he's dating me without the committment. If anything a I just want to talk t him about it. I asked him if he thought it was ok to act like this and if he was really keeping his word to his job and that's what he's suppossed to be thinking about. My 1 friend says try it so i will know if i like the reltu=ionship and everyone says we're the perfect couple but my other friend said no, wait until there is a committment. I like him and stuff but all these complications are making me want to tell him I am not going to be anything more than a friend! Unless we can figure something out fast I feel like I have to just stop! It's all too complicated! Please help! Thanks so much! :D
Ok, I'm guessing it's going to be really hard for him. I think that since it's so close to his 16th birthday that he should ask if he can have a girlfriend. Who knows, maybe when he asks they will say yes. Even if the answer is no, in asking, he could get some spiritual guidance about the situation. Since he's obviously very religious this could be just what he needs. You're right, it's not okay that he's trying to be intimate with you, but won't date you. If you two are going to be together and remain friends the intimacy just can't be there until he turns 16. Hopefully after talking to some people in his church he will get the strength to do that. I wish you the best of luck and I'm so sorry that you're stuck in the middle of this! Remember that it's really not complicated. The both of you want to be together and there is a barrier in between you. It's not his fault and anything he's doing because of it is out of pain that he can't be with you. Cut him some slack, especially during this hard time. He sounds like such a great guy and you should definitely wait for him if he can't be with you now.
(Rating: 5) Thanks! That's really good advice and totally helped me!