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Let's say I met this guy. Through mutual friends. But I only ever talked to him online. Let's call him Bob. From the first picture that I saw of him, I noticed that Bob was repulsive (to me, at least. in my opinion) but he was extremely nice. he always gives the best advice...always listens, shows that he genuinely does care. And even though I know I will NEVER want to be with him (through meeting somewhere other than MSN) I still fell in love with his personality. Not his face. And now I'm attached. Whenever he mentions his girlfriend, I get jealous. But then I tell myself "why are you jealous? he's not your bf and he'll never be. so what's the point?" But I just love him for his personality. And it bugs me. Because I know he's not my type. Yet I still react with jealousy and other close and emotional feelings toward him. Is this okay? What should I do? How can I move on? I've been talking to him for one year now. I know that the best advice would be "Just stop talking to him before you get yourself in trouble" BUT ITS SO HARD! It's so hard to let go of someone you've gotten so close with. Advice? :( am I being shallow?!

I wouldn't say you were being shallow, but you are saying that you're never going to go out with him...just because of his looks. I think you're being a bit unfair. If he really has a great personality then maybe you shouldn't rule out a future relationship just yet.

If you are sure that you'll never want to be with him, then you could just stay friends with him, but I think you like him a bit. (Even if it's just because of his personality) So you can stay friends with him and deny you like him and become even more attached or you can just stop talking to him so you'll be able to get over your crush since you don't want to be with him.

My guess is that if you keep talking to him you'll become even more attracted toward him and it'll be harder to just be his friend. It's your choice as to what to do though, follow your heart.

::Jasmine::

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