BIOGRAPHY:
My name is Carrie, and I just recently turned 25. I've been told that I give excellent advice, so I created this column last year with the intention of helping as many people as possible. Although I do believe I succeeded, I ultimately turned my back on this column when I discovered just how cruel and thankless some people can be. Almost one year later a lot has changed. I've gained a whole new perspective on life and the world around me. I'm much more positive, sympathetic, and willing to listen when people truly need help. So now I've decided to come back and focus my attention on the individuals who are truly in need of advice.
ADVICE:
I'm very genuine when it comes to giving advice. I try to be sympathetic to the person asking the question, but I don't ever sugar coat things. I've learned quickly that many people who ask for help don't really want advice - they want someone who will say what they want to hear. Sorry, but you're not going to get that with me. I'm not here to make friends (if a friendship happens though, yay for me!). You'll always get the truth from me whether you like it or not. While the truth may sting just a bit to begin with, it will absolutely set you free in the long run. If you want to be lied to, please seek advice from somebody else.
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hmm where to begin...i saw this boy at one dance that i'd never seen before. he was really cute so i just smiled at him and he smiled back. at the time i didnt really think anything of him, just another cute boy at my school. it turns at he was a year older than me so i wouldnt have any classes with him. then as the year went on i started seeing him more and more and thinking about him more and more. then at a school event we finally talked for to the first time. he kept smiling the entire time. then like 2 weeks later a friend of mine who is also a year older than me borrowed on of my soccer hoodies that had my name on it and she had a study with him. after seeing it he started asking a bunch of questions about how long we knew each other and everything. then he told her i was cutee. :) then one day i got a pass to one of my friends studies and he was in it. needless to say i went like everyday. we talked and flirted a few times. and it started getting to a point where everytime i saw him he'd say "hey, whats up" and we were getting close but now its summer i've already seen him twice and we just talked casually. im his friend on myspace, i have his s/n, and one of my friends is dating his best friend. i know he doesnt like me for a fact, but he's the type that is still going to look for better as long as hes not comitted and the girl he likes is playing him. i feel awful. so how can i get to know him better without coming on too strong and make him see that shes just messing with his head, and that i wouldnt do that? thank you very much in advance (: (link)
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Well, first of all, let me start off by saying that you have a very cute story and that you seem very lovely. He'd be lucky to have you. I can tell that you have very genuine feelings for this guy, so I'm going to be as sincere as possible. I love the hoodie part in your question because something like that sounds like fate to me.
Normally, I get people asking me questions, and I can tell that they're reading into things and being delusional. I don't get that feeling with you, and I could see myself in your position. There are far too many chance encounters in your story for all of it to add up to coincidence. So just know that I see what you see.
With that said, I think you're selling yourself a little short. Some guys take a while to realize that they truly like someone because sometimes those feelings scare them. Sometimes it's easier for them to ignore them and to pursue someone else they're attracted to but don't feel as strongly about because it's less intimidating for them.
I'm not saying that's definitely what's going on here, but it's a possibility you should consider. Also, if he doesn't like you like you said you know for a fact, you also have to take into consideration that that might change. He might think of you as just a friend right now, but that doesn't mean that's how he'll always see you.
My advice is to continue to be his friend. Maybe in the future he'll open up his eyes and see that the girl he likes isn't worth his time and that the girl who is worth his time has been by his side all along. It happens more than you think and not just in the movies. If your feelings for him are strong, being with him will be worth the wait.
Also, by remaining his friend, you'll be the one he turns to for support. You will be the one he opens up to - the one he lets inside. That's a powerful and beautiful thing. So try to be his friend and give it some time. He may reveal his feelings for you or he may develop feelings for you. Either way - wait and see what happens.
Finally, just because you like him and you wait for him doesn't mean you have to put your life on hold for him. Go out and meet other guys. He's likely to notice you more if he sees you being successful and leading a life of your own. Many boys like to chase. Maybe the reason he doesn't like you is because you've been chasing him.
Let him chase you a bit and let him miss/want you. He might be worth the wait, but so are you. Go out and live your life to the fullest. If he decides he wants to play a bigger role in your life - fantastic (and invite me to the wedding!). If he doesn't - well, you still have a great friend and a very fun life ahead of you. That's not bad at all. :)
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thank you very very much this is some of the best advice i've gotten from this site. it really helped. and trust me, you will be invited (:
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