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my boyfriend, josh is 17.
his best friend, and my best friend, blake is also 17.
so, ive been dating my boyfriend for 3 months on the 5th of august. and i met blake about a month before josh and i started dating.
i really love my boyfriend. and he says he loves me. but i dunno if he does. sometimes. he just doesnt sound sincere. blake on teh other hand, when he says i love you. its so definate, and i KNOW i can trust him. it just seems like blake cares so much more. and it worries me sometimes.
blake lives about an hour away from me though, while josh lves liek 10 minutes away.
i hung out with blake on friday night, we held hands, and he held me. and it was so great. hes the best hugger in teh world. and although he can be a sarcastic asshole sometimes, hes still so amazing. but he doesnt know that, hes reall not confident.
josh is pretty confident, he has low-ish self esteem.
but since friday, ive been thinking about my relationship with josh. i know i love him, but i dont know if its that kind of love anymore. and i think im begining to have feelings for blake.
and it really worries me, because i dont want to do that to josh.
also, i havent seen josh in about 2 weeks, because hes in africa on a missions trip.
so that may have something to do with what im feeling.
i just really dont know what to do, and id liek an outsiders opinion.
help would be much appreciated.
thanks in advance.
If you read everything you wrote, then the choice is obvious. Choose Blake. You shouldn't stay with Josh when you have feelings for another guy, especially if your loosing your feelings for your boyfriend. Don't let me tell you who to be with though. This is your decision. Think about who you really want to be with, who you couldn't bare to lose.
Also if you stay with Josh you might regret what could have happened and what you could have had with Blake. He sounds like a great guy, and you trust him. That's very important in a relationship, it also sounds like he really cares for you.
On the other hand, you're not sure if you love your boyfriend. Love is a sure kind of thing...you don't love him. You're not even sure if he loves you and you don't trust him. Not good. Think about all of this and make a Pro-Con list for both of them. (Just kidding. I actually did that once to help me choose what guy I wanted to be with, but you don't have to.)
I believe there are different types of love. There's a difference between being in love with someone, and loving them. I honestly think from what you wrote that you would be so much happier and have a much healthier relationship with Blake. But that's just my opinion. Just make sure you're picking the right person for you! Follow your heart and your instincts. That's all I can really say.
Let me know how it turns out. I'm seriously curious to see who you pick!
::Jasmine::
(Rating: 4) im really pretty sure that ill stay with josh, blake lives too far away, and i think im just feeling unsure about things cause i havent seen or talked to josh in about 2 weeks, and i wont again for another week hes in africa and stuff.
so im not sure yet.
but i think ill stay with josh.