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You know me by now i am user: lost_3v 3r ytim3 and here what happen...the girl that i've been crushing on for 7 years and you know the rest...
last nite i was chatting with her online and i told her that i went to my sisters house for a party and she said her roommate Jackie was trying to hook me up with her brother. i meet him and we hang out at the party and talk and played pool. that was it. and when i told my friend Jane (my crush) about it. Jane reply "i dont know if i should be happy for you or pissed off" and i reply "what?" jane reply "what you mean what?"
i didnt think of it much and i changed the subject and she was pissed off at me the whole nite she said she had to go and that was it. i said sorry to her the next day and she said oh i wasn't pissed, sorry that i sounded pissed.
was she jealous?
what do i do ?
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It seems like things are getting increasingly confusing for you. Instead of being confused and not knowing what to do, I suggest you be assertive with her and ask her how she feels. It might make the situation uncomfortable, but it's already uncomfortable for you and you deserve some peace. You have a right to know how she feels and what she's thinking because your heart is on the line. She knows this and doesn't seem to be very respectful of it.
If she's confused and is considering taking things further with you, that would explain some of her strange behavior. I would imagine that you would feel better knowing where she stands even if she doesn't know herself. With that information you could give her the time and space she needs to come to a decision, but without that information you have to guess or assume what's going on in her head and that isn't fair to you. It's time you get some answers.
From the way you explained things, it does seem like she's jealous. Maybe she thinks that you admitting you liked her meant that you were going to wait around until she figured out that she likes you back. Big mistake! You need to tell her that she needs to be upfront with you now or you're moving on. You can't wait around for her forever. You've already waited 7 years. You need to know if any part of her is interested in being more than friends.
I hope that she can come to a decision ASAP because you seem like a very nice, genuine girl with a lot to give. If you can't give it to her, you'll definitely find someone else who will appreciate having you in their life. My advice is to be more assertive and a little more aggressive. Don't force it - do it at a degree you're comfortable with. You have to stand up for yourself because sometimes no one else will. You deserve the truth now.
You shouldn't have apologized to her because you did nothing wrong. Living your life and meeting new people is what you're supposed to do. If she is uncomfortable with that, then she's going to have to get over it. You've been very patient and understanding so far. You've opened up your heart and gave her the opportunity to do the same. If she isn't interested, she has no right to get pissed at you when you meet someone else.
And you will because you're awesome.
PS: Sorry for this response being so late. I got sick with a nasty cold, but I'm getting better now. Please feel free to get in contact with me if you need any further assistance. Good luck :)
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