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Hi. There's this guy (18/m). Let's call him 'A".
I'm 15/f (I turn 16 in 3 months).
I'm pretty shy.
Anyways, we were hanging out with my older brother and another guy.
They decided to drop by one of their other guy friends' house (call him 'B') without phoning first.
So everyone decides that I should go up to his door and knock because it would be most unexpected and I'm not really close to B...therefore funny.
They try to persuade me, and A tells me I should do it because B "won't be able to turn you down."
By the way, there is no love interest between me and B. Also, they had a fair idea I wouldn't really do it.
So, what did A mean?
These are the possible reasons I've oome up with:
1. A is saying that no one can resist me (ha, ha).
2. It was just a random thing he said--no meaning at all.
3. B is the kind of person who always wants a girlfriend, yet can't get one... meaning that B is so desperate, he wouldn't turn even ME down.
4. It had a sexual implication-- I would offer myself to B. "Turn you down"
5. He was just trying to persuade me to knock on the door.
6. Whatever you think.
As you can tell, I like A and I want the reason to be A.
But please tell me what you honestly think.
Thanks. (link)
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I've read this question from top to bottom several times and even read it to a couple of my friends (my male panel of experts), and unfortunately we all unanimously agree on the same answer - "A" does not like you. None of us (especially me) are happy to report this. It would make me very happy if he did like you since you seem to like him a lot, but all the signs point to him not liking you. I'll explain why below...
You have to realize that guys are naturally very competitive. If he liked you (even the least possible amount), instead of encouraging you to go through with the dare involving "B", he most likely would have sulked and said nothing at all or made some kind of petty insult towards him. That's what all the guys I know would have done. Most guys are petty and immature when it comes to jealousy, especially guys who are his age.
I think you should move on for two reasons. Reason #1. He doesn't like you and you have to get beyond that. You have a wonderful life ahead of you and you shouldn't let some boy keep you from enjoying it to the fullest. Reason #2. If this boy is ever going to like you, it's not going to happen if he sees you as a buddy. He needs to see you being an individual with a life of her own, not some little girl with a crush.
So my advice is to work on getting over this crush and try to accept him for what he's willing to offer - a friendship. This may cause you pain, but it will pass, I promise. Life is made up of ups and downs and until you get used to the emotional roller coaster you're going to suffer needlessly. There will be lots of other guys who don't see you as just a friend and those are the ones you should devote your time and effort to.
Your crush may be a great guy, but you have to remember that you're also a great girl. You deserve more. :)
Good luck!
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Rating: 5
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Thank you for being honest (even if it really wasn't the answer I hoped for lol).
You're right.
A few nights ago, I was thinking it over, and I came to the same conclusion that he doesn't like me (but for different reasons).
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