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I've been friends with this guy Brandon for two years. I honestly love him, I mean we haven't just been friends we've been going out and sometimes things stop us but this time nothing is getting in the way. My mom doesn't like him at all, she doesn't know that we ever dated. I love him and I know I'm too young (16) to be making the decision of who I want to be with for the rest of my life but I know I love him. Last night I told him that I can't be with him anymore because my parents don't want me to marry out of my religion (I'm a muslim and he's Christian.) He was crying and so was I. I want to be with him more then anything but my dad said if I marry him he's going to leave my mom and I love my mom and don't want her to be alone because I'm being a selfish snob. I don't know how I can make them understand that he means absoluely everything to me. Any suggestions on what I should do?
If your dad left your mom it wouldn't be your fault. Who you date and eventually marry has nothing to do with your parents relationship, and you shouldn't have to pick your happiness over your moms. If your dad left your mom then most likely there would be another reason behind it, even if he says it's your fault. And he could be just telling you this knowing you would break up with Brandon, he could have no intention of really leaving your mom.
Do they really know how much you care for him? You should sit them down and explain to them that even though you respect their opinions you really love him and that you really want to be with him. Tell them it's not far of them to judge him based his his religion alone, and it hurts you that they won't accept him. Tell them that he makes you happy.
Who you marry is *your* choice, not theirs. So you should get back together with Brandon, no matter what your parents say. You love each other, you should be together. Your parents should support you, and I'm sorry if they don't. If your dad leaves your mom then he's a jackass, and your mom deserves better. That's all I can say. Good luck with your relationship.
::Jasmine::
(Rating: 5) thanks your answer made me cry
I don't want to disapoint my parents but I don't want to marry someone I know I'm going to be unhappy with for the rest of my life and only because he's my religion