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OK, so this is gonna be long but i`m so sorry but bare with me PLEASE i need help...
so there is this girl, "g" and we became best friends ever since the begining of the year. we were both new and she was still attatched to her other two BESTBEST friends, "E" and "A", so we hung out allll the time! and we went to the mall, EVERYTHING together. however, toawrds the end of the school year, she began ditching US, me and my other best friend "M" for her OTHER friends. we fought and then made up and THEN, yesterday, there was this banquet thing and she went to her friend "A"'s house and didn`t come to the banquet. But that day, when we were like, so youre ditching us for HER and she was like yeah. and i was like ok then youre saying we shuldn`t be friends AT ALL anymore? and she was like yeah.
and we were all WTF.
but today was the last day of school, and we were ok-ish, not bffs.
in two days, i`m having this little get together and i invited her.
but yeah, i still want to be friends with her but shes not coming back to my school next year and shes going to surf camp with two of her friends this year E & A.
PLEASE HELP;
i still wanna hang with her over summer.
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If I'm being completely honest, I have to say that I think your friendship with her is over. I could be wrong, but me being wrong is extremely rare. If I am wrong, your friendship is definitely in critical condition. The trouble the two of you are having is your jealousy and insecurity. You need to stop checking up on the status of your friendship. You should be having fun with your friends - NOT discussing who they like better, if your friendship is OK, or why they want to hang out with someone that isn't you.
It's understandable to get jealous when someone you care for is spending more time with someone else, but that's a part of life. You have to get used to it and get over it. Blowing it up out of proportion is the number one way to lose your friend (which you're finding out the hard way). My advice to you is to make some new friends and relax. Keep your friendships (and your life) as drama free as possible - have fun, laugh, be happy. If "G" sees that you've become more carefree, she may want to be your friend again. If not, you gotta move on.
There are people who will love you, who'll prefer hanging out with you over other people. You just gotta find them. Have patience because it isn't easy, but when you do find them the wait will have been worth it. In the meantime, if you want to save your friendship, the only thing you can do is stop letting things between you guys get so heavy. Lighten up! If she comes to your party and sees that you have lightened up, she'll be more inclined to talk to you. If she doesn't come, don't worry about it. Enjoy your party and enjoy the people who ARE there.
Either way, chill out. It's much easier to warm up to someone who isn't so hot-headed all the time.
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thanks...
but what can i tell her?
we`ve talked so many times, and i mean we just have SO much fun together...
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