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Q: Is there such a thing as being scared that you're too skinny? I don't want to say anything, although I bring it up to my mom sometimes, but I know if I said this my friends would flip out and say "what is wrong with you, why are you rubbing it in?" etc. Also, people always comment that I look skinnier than the last time they saw me!! and yes, I know it is a good thing but I see some girls who are just anorexic-looking and very unattractive in my eyes and I am afraid that I look like them.

I dance once a week for 4 hours, and I have swim practice every other day and meets on Fridays. I am very busy, although I don't play many sports, but I feel like I'm in OK shape. But I often just don't feel hungry and I eat when I am hungry(but eat a lot of junk food...i'm trying to eat less).

I feel pretty, but my skin is very pale, I have dark circles and I sometimes feel too skinny, although half the time i am perfectly satisfied. I never feel fat or anything.

Thanks soo much for the help, I guess what I'm asking is, do other people worry about this?
is it normal?
and what can I do to be healthier-looking?
(i always tend to look tired).

Thanks again and I know this was long!

-AW'

p.s. i have a very high self-confidence level and I tend to be a leader in my school/community, but I've been wondering about htis for awhile. thnks:)

I know exactly how you feel; I tend to be the same exact way. I've always been thin, and I don't even intend to be- it's just the way my body is. Everyone is different. As long as you're healthy, that's all that matters. And I know what you mean by your mom thinking it's strange that you mention it- I sometimes mention that I feel too skinny, and people comment that I'm crazy for even worrying about it (probably cause people in this society are obsessed with body image and being thin).
If you feel like you are normal for your body type, then that's fine. But if you have lost weight and feel like you need to eat more or something, then that's something to think about. As long as you know you are normal for you and your type, then try not to worry about it too much ( I do know how you feel though...i'm the same)
And a reason you may feel to skinny is that you are very active. That's good for you though, and as long as you eat well and have good nutrition, I think you're ok. If you want, you can check your BMI (body mass index) to make sure you have a normal weight-range for your height.
So to answer your question, yes, there are others who feel the same.. and to look healthier looking, just try getting enough sleep, drinking more water, etc. I tend to look tired too, and I think it might have to do with stress levels, and sleeping pattern. OH, and another thing..if you don't already, take a multivitamin. It helps increase your energy level and give you needed nutrients.

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Thanks so much! this was a very helpful - the most helpful - answer i've gotten on this question. I am supposed to be taking a multivitamin but often forget to, but I still feel sort of pale. I think being busy leads to getting tired, thus the dark circles...but thanks for all the advice, it's reassuring to know that other people are worried, because it means i might be overreacting. thanks again :]

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