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hey. i'm just wondering what to do in this dj situation. lol
i have these dj's. the guy i like is the dj and his best friend is, but they work together. however, this guy has a girlfriend, and i know all this and all that but the thing is that its my birthday and i don't want to see him there with his girlfriend and he might bring her to the party. what can i do? because i hire them for my parites and they're really good and i trust them with this because they are wonderful and my mom loves them and wants them there because they're very clean and very descent gentlemen. but, how can i make sure his girlfriend doesn't go? thanks a bunch (link)
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If he is just dj-ing the party then the chances are she won't come anyway, especially if this guy and his friend are only invited as dj's and nothing more.
However, if there really is no way you can do this, then I'm afraid it would be unreasonable to refuse to let her into the party. I understand how you feel, don't get me wrong. But I have been in this girl's position myself and being the object of hate because you fell for some other girl's crush is a horrible position to be in. No matter how you feel about him, the fact is that she is just a girl who fell for a guy. She didn't do it to spite you, because the chances are she never even knew you before she started going out with him. So why are you so mad at her?? It isn't her fault and it's unfair to treat her this way just because you can't have the guy you like. She doesn't deserve it. Perhaps if he knows how you feel about him, you should be mad at him, not her.
However, if the reason you don't want her there is because it would hurt want to see them loved up together while you are trying to celebrate your birthday, then you are within your reasons to try to find a way to ensure she doesn't come. BUT, do it tactfully. Explain that it is just close friends and family at the party or something along those lines, to make it clear it would be inappropriate for her to come. That way, you don't hurt her feelings, the guy you like doesn't get upset with you and you still get to party.
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thankyou. i understand and i am not mad at her she seems like a super nice person and as a person i like her a lot. and the only reason i'm asking is because i've liked him since i was 13 and this is my 16th birthday and i just wouldn't feel great seening them there together on my birthday lol
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