I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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Okay.
Im not skinny.
But im not fat.
And i think that the fact that im not 100 pounds is keeping guys from being interested in me.
I mean..i am confident..but i never have the courage to talk to them...even if they SEEM interested...i dont know what to do because with my friends..i have confidence..but in school im not always with my friends..so i get really, really shy...any advice?
thnx (link)
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It sounds to me that the most likely reason for guys not being interested in you is your lack of self confidence.
If you look at all the girls at your school who walk around with boys on their arms, you will probably find that they come in all shapes and sizes but they have one thing in common.....they all have confidence.
You can tell from the way a person walks, the way they hold themselves, the way they talk to other people, even the way they stand still, that they have confidence. That being said, the chances are that inside, they are probably all just as shy as you are.
It's one thing to act confidence and another to feel it but usually one comes from the other so I'll give you some tips. When you walk, don't look at the ground. Look straight ahead or slightly to the side. Meet people's eyes as you walk along and if someone looks you in the eyes, smile at them. Yes, it will feel horribley awkward the first few times but flash people a big old smile and you'll find it gets returned soon enough. Best of all, people will think you are an approachable person so you will find in time that people start to talk to you more.
When you stand, stand with your head parallel to the floor, arms loose by your side or in any other position except crossed in front of your chest. This SCREAMS "Go away and leave me alone!!"
Lastly, when you talk to people, any people, look them in the eye. Very difficult to do at first because it makes you feel so awkward but it enables you to connect with people as they are talking and lets them know you hear them. Don't stare them in the eye for a long length of time and divert your eyes frm time to time but make sure you keep coming back to their eyes.
It really isn't your weight that is the problem. There are so many girls out there that think "I could get a boyfriend if I was a little thinner/taller/shorter/smarter/had blonde hair/etc" but the truth is, there are men out there who will love you no matter what you look like. It's your confidence and personality that will win them over.
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