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okay well im 16, female. and theres this guy that i really really like, unforetunately i have a boyfriend right now, but im defintaly thinking of breaking up with him...for the guy i like. the guy i like is a "ladies man" though. he flirts with every girl, and it makes me mad, he tells me im the only girl he really has feelings for though, so i believe him..but he gave me his myspace password to fix it up and stuff,..but me being nosey and all i had to look at his inbox and it said stuff to girls like some of the stuff he tells me about how i sohuldnt be jealous of anyone cause im the only one who could ever dream about caring about, and stuff like that. so i talked to him about it..but i didnt say like i saw your myspace i was just like i hate the fact that you treat all the girls the way you treat me..and then he said "well i cant help it that i am the way i am
i cant just change my personality" and that was that...but im not sure if can trust him..ive been cheated on before and it wasnt fun, it hurt like hell. and i just dont wanna get hurt again..help!! (link)
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Simply put for you: there should be a couple reg flags coming up when you think about this situation. First off, let's address the issue of you possibly considering/wanting to end your relationship with your current boyfriend for another guy. Obviously there is some reason for this--more so than just because there is another guy in the picture. Are you not feeling fufilled? You need to get to the root of it. 1. It is not fair to your current boyfriend to be in the dark about all of this and 2. It is not fair to the other guy because that gives him the wrong indication about you. With that said, you have to take into thought hte fact that this new guy is talking to you, flirting with you, and trying to work something up with you knowing full well that you are in a relationship. That shows a lack of respect right there. It also shows him you are more of "fling" material because you come off as more unstable in terms of a relationship. Also, I think it's really good that you look at his Myspace stuff. Guys are not always going to be honest--so sometimes you have to play detective! The fact that you found what you did should be evidence enough. A guy will always tell you "what sounds good". What he writes behind your back is something totally different. Ultimately you are the only one that can make your final decision, but hopefully my words here will help to guide you.The fact that he told you I just can't change my personality should signal to you that this guy is pretty set in his ways and is going to continue being that way. If you think you would be willing to tolerate that battle, then by all means, more power to you. If you are finding red flags and having doubts this early on, image what will be later down the road. I'm not saying the guy isn't good. He may be a nice guy, be he needs to be more honest and more clear about his intentions. Lastly, I think you need to talk to your current boyfriend and let him know what's up. If you feel like something is missing that can be fixed--communicate. And just because there are 2 guys doesn't mean you have to pick only either of them. Best of luck, and remember, it's okay to get hurt as long as you get back up. :)
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hey okay well i did break up with my current boyfriend, but it wasnt because of the other guy. but now since i broke up with the other guy mike told me that he really likes me and i told him i really liked him too. and he was just tellin me all this stuff...and of course i believed him...and come to find out he told another girl the same thing he told me..so thanks for the advice i dont think im going to go out with him since i really cant trust him and i defintaly dont want to get hurt every day..so yea now i just dont know what to do..but thanks anyways!
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