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I'm an 29 year old guy.I'll always do my best to give well considered and sincere advice - give me your best shot. P.S. Don't be afraid to ask me private questions, I rarely spend a lot of time answering non-private questions.
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well my one friend is having like a party and she invited me to go tommorrow night and sleep over afterwards. i asked my mom and she said yes as long as the parents are home. well today i found out no parents will be there and itll be like an open house. I really really want to go. but now the guilt is coming to me. What should i do? I mean i don't always wanna be such a goody good. please help i really wanna go?! whats your advice. thanks
Hey,
I don't know what time it is wherever you live, so Am I'm answering this on time?
What's your mother like? Is the reason she said that you could go 'as long as the parents are home' because she's worried about your safety? Is she worried about your responsiblity levels, or does she trust you well?
Depending on who's throwing them, open house parties can be dangerous. You didn't mention if you were male or female, but if you're female, you have to be cautious about things like "who knows where you are, when", and mind anything that you drink. Spiking happens, and it's got a purpose, a bad one.
If you do go, without telling your mother, make sure someone you trust very well knows where you are, and tell your mother when you should be back home the next day by.
You know how responsible you can be. If you're under 16, I don't recommend going without asking your mother on the new terms.
I think you probably think your mother wouldn't want you going if she knew what the party was. What you have to decide is whether it will be safe, and you can go without a lot of risk to yourself. If you decide that you can, then you shouldn't be worried about having lied. You can tell her the next day "Well, I went, but when I got there there were heaps of people, and I didn't know where her parents were...". This serves the purpose of enhancing your ability to look after yourself in your mother's perspective. Unless of course you think she would just freak out on you.
Sorry to be long about it :)
-K
(Rating: 5) thank-you for the advice!