Hi Everyone!!
My name is Brenda, and I'm 34 years young. I've been happily married (to the most amazing man) for three years, and we have three children. My daughter is nine years old (my husband has adopted her), my stepdaughter is eight, and my stepson is six. I am currently a full time college student taking Business Administration specializing in Human Resource Management. I am also a volunteer with the Sexual Assault Victim Support Program with our Regional Health Authority.
My hope with this advice column is that I will be able to help people. I've been through alot in my life, and I decided that if I can help people in similar situations, then that could also help me heal, and move on. I won't go into great detail on here, but my motto has definitely become "what doesn't kill us, will only make us stronger".
I was raped when I was 16, and then continually by an abusive boyfriend when I was 19-20. He was an alcoholic and abusive sexually, physically, and emotionally. He unsuccessfully (thank God) tried to kill me.
I've been cheated on...been the cheater, I've gone through addiction, as well as losing my dad. I have clinical depression. I was a single mom for five years before I met my husband. I became extremely obese, and five years ago weighed close to 400 pounds. In January of 2000 I underwent gastric bypass surgery and have maintained a 200+ pound weight loss. I went through my childhood and adolescense being ridiculed for my appearance. I really want to help people with obesity issues.
Currently, my most stressing issues seem to be dealing with my husbands despicable ex-wife. It's hard to deal with someone whom you have absolutely no respect for as a parent, or as a person for that matter. I have many concerns about making a blended family work, so that everyone is happy.
PHEW!!!
Well....I hope I will have many visitors to my column and can help each and every one of you! Chances are..whatever it is you're going through, I've probably been there. I hope to talk to you soon.
Brenda
Website: Help Me, Brenda!
E-mail: helpmebrenda@inbox.com
Gender: Female
Location: Manitoba, Canada
Occupation: student
Age: 34
Member Since: April 9, 2006
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Last Update: October 5, 2006
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Hey! im 16/f and im looking into getting a tattoo on my lower back, but i herd that if you do when it comes time to have kids you cant get an epedural...
My question is...Is this true? Could getting a tattoo on my lower back realy effect on wether or not i can get an epedural when i have kids???
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Hi
I work at a hospital and was actually discussing this with a nurse on the maternity floor not too long ago.
She told me that it is possible to still get an epidural with a tatoo on the lower back, but some doctors will not do it. There are risks with an epidural, and having a tatoo can greaten those risks. It's really up to the doctor.
An epidural consists of a needle being placed between the vertebrae into a space called an epidural space (in your spine). Medication is then placed into this space. A small catheter is then threaded through the needle into the space and the needle withdrawn. The catheter is left in place and taped so that it does not move.
Alot of doctors feel that the ink from the tatoo could possibly interfere with the epidural and cause risk.
When I had my daughter I had the epidural and I couldn't imagine giving birth without one (call me a baby :)....if it was me, I wouldn't want to risk it...there are alot of other places on the body where a tatoo looks awesome!!
Good luck,
Brenda
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