Hi Everyone!!
My name is Brenda, and I'm 34 years young. I've been happily married (to the most amazing man) for three years, and we have three children. My daughter is nine years old (my husband has adopted her), my stepdaughter is eight, and my stepson is six. I am currently a full time college student taking Business Administration specializing in Human Resource Management. I am also a volunteer with the Sexual Assault Victim Support Program with our Regional Health Authority.
My hope with this advice column is that I will be able to help people. I've been through alot in my life, and I decided that if I can help people in similar situations, then that could also help me heal, and move on. I won't go into great detail on here, but my motto has definitely become "what doesn't kill us, will only make us stronger".
I was raped when I was 16, and then continually by an abusive boyfriend when I was 19-20. He was an alcoholic and abusive sexually, physically, and emotionally. He unsuccessfully (thank God) tried to kill me.
I've been cheated on...been the cheater, I've gone through addiction, as well as losing my dad. I have clinical depression. I was a single mom for five years before I met my husband. I became extremely obese, and five years ago weighed close to 400 pounds. In January of 2000 I underwent gastric bypass surgery and have maintained a 200+ pound weight loss. I went through my childhood and adolescense being ridiculed for my appearance. I really want to help people with obesity issues.
Currently, my most stressing issues seem to be dealing with my husbands despicable ex-wife. It's hard to deal with someone whom you have absolutely no respect for as a parent, or as a person for that matter. I have many concerns about making a blended family work, so that everyone is happy.
PHEW!!!
Well....I hope I will have many visitors to my column and can help each and every one of you! Chances are..whatever it is you're going through, I've probably been there. I hope to talk to you soon.
Brenda
Website: Help Me, Brenda!
E-mail: helpmebrenda@inbox.com
Gender: Female
Location: Manitoba, Canada
Occupation: student
Age: 34
Member Since: April 9, 2006
Answers: 193
Last Update: October 5, 2006
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i read one of your replies to someone and it confused me a lot, i was wondering if you could clarify what you meant.
here's the reply u gave:
My best friend in high school got pregnant without having sex! I know this is hard to believe, and although very unlikely, it is possible.
Anytime you involve yourself in sexual activity, you take the chance of becoming pregnant, or contracting an STI.
first how can you get pregnant if you never had sex??? and what is an STI?
thanks! (link)
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Hi
My friend and her boyfriend were both naked, and very close. He ejaculated right by her vagina, and his sperm made their way inside.
Alot of people say "ya right...as if"...and that's fine. It is true however, and it's up to you if you want to believe it, and take the proper precautions.
Like I said, it is extremely rare, but it does happen.
STI stands for sexually transmitted infection. Basically the same as STD (sexually transmitted disease).
Thanks for asking to clarify.
Brenda
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Thanx for clarifying! and thats kinda scary that you could get pregnant like that.
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