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i dont know what to do
he always says he hates his life and wants to die
there is stuff EFFED up in his life but not to where he should die i mean its not THAT THAT BAD considering his mom died and his dad sometimes beats him. but his dad really loves him a LOT he can just be an asshole to his dad.
hes like 'im going to cut myself like rite now' and all this stuff because it "RELIVES STRESS FOR HIM" i dont know what to say
First and most important, you need to be there for him. Be there to listen if he wants to talk and show him that you're not going to just leave.
Second, you have to understand some misconceptions about cutting. It is NOT a suicide attempt, it is a method of coping, however it is not a good method of coping. Although to people who do it, it does offer a release from tension and overwhelming emotions for a period of time, usually those emotions come back accompanied by guilt, shame, and/or anger with onesself for giving in and cutting. Cutting is definitely a cry for help. In your boyfriend's case, it sounds like he is doing it at least partially because he needs someone to notice what he's going through and help him. It shows signs of a deeper depression that needs to be treated before it evolves into something even more serious, such as suicide attempts.
Okay, now for what to do.
1) Don't freak out. Ask him why he's doing it, what he's feeling about it, and ask him if he wants to get help.
2) Tell a counselor. Generally I do not like school counselors, and I would say tell his dad, but if his dad sometimes beats him that is NOT okay, even if his dad seems to love him a lot at other times.
3) Encourage him to get help. The only way he is going to get through the depression behind the cutting is to go to therapy and possibly get medication, depending on how serious it becomes.
4) Understand that this problem is going to take some time to get through. If his mom died and his dad sometimes beats him, he has to be under a lot of stress and tension. There are no easy solutions and he's probably going to have a hard road to recovery ahead of him.
I'm going through a similar situation right now and I also used to cut myself and be seriously depressed, so I've learned a lot about these kinds of situations. If you need anything else email me at Nevaeh314@gmail.com
Hope life starts looking up!
Love,
Nevaeh314
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thanks ill try this
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