Hi Everyone!!
My name is Brenda, and I'm 34 years young. I've been happily married (to the most amazing man) for three years, and we have three children. My daughter is nine years old (my husband has adopted her), my stepdaughter is eight, and my stepson is six. I am currently a full time college student taking Business Administration specializing in Human Resource Management. I am also a volunteer with the Sexual Assault Victim Support Program with our Regional Health Authority.
My hope with this advice column is that I will be able to help people. I've been through alot in my life, and I decided that if I can help people in similar situations, then that could also help me heal, and move on. I won't go into great detail on here, but my motto has definitely become "what doesn't kill us, will only make us stronger".
I was raped when I was 16, and then continually by an abusive boyfriend when I was 19-20. He was an alcoholic and abusive sexually, physically, and emotionally. He unsuccessfully (thank God) tried to kill me.
I've been cheated on...been the cheater, I've gone through addiction, as well as losing my dad. I have clinical depression. I was a single mom for five years before I met my husband. I became extremely obese, and five years ago weighed close to 400 pounds. In January of 2000 I underwent gastric bypass surgery and have maintained a 200+ pound weight loss. I went through my childhood and adolescense being ridiculed for my appearance. I really want to help people with obesity issues.
Currently, my most stressing issues seem to be dealing with my husbands despicable ex-wife. It's hard to deal with someone whom you have absolutely no respect for as a parent, or as a person for that matter. I have many concerns about making a blended family work, so that everyone is happy.
PHEW!!!
Well....I hope I will have many visitors to my column and can help each and every one of you! Chances are..whatever it is you're going through, I've probably been there. I hope to talk to you soon.
Brenda
Website: Help Me, Brenda!
E-mail: helpmebrenda@inbox.com
Gender: Female
Location: Manitoba, Canada
Occupation: student
Age: 34
Member Since: April 9, 2006
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Last Update: October 5, 2006
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Okay so i have been with my boyfriend for sometime now and its like lately i have been feeling hurt...its the things he says like ill ask something and hell call me dumb because sometimes i dont think before i ask things i guess...but we have been going through somethings for the past week..and i really dont know how to get out my feelings out to him in person its easy to text or write it down for me...but he wants and likes to talk face to face even if were laying down in the dark i still dont know how to get out my feelings to him..i really do love and care about him...hes my world my everything and i know i mean the same to him were very close eachothers best freinds we do everything together always with eachother..i just have this in the way of us getting even more closer...so please i need help on how i can be able to step up and talk to him face to face..il rate 5s!!PLEASE HELP ASAP!! (link)
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Hi
Just be yourself!!
If he tells you you're dumb, I would say that that really hurts your feelings. If he constantly hurts your feelings, then you should think about getting out of the relationship.
Someone who loves you does NOT intentionally hurt you physically, emotionally, or mentally.
Life's too short to be with someone who doesn't treat you with the respect that you need and deserve.
Self-confidence is a huge boost to ones character. If you can be confident in yourself and what you're saying then he will take you seriously.
Good luck.
Brenda
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