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Alright, to start things off, I have been dating my current boyfriend for three years in May, and I love him very much.
But the thing is, I'm getting recurring feelings for my ex-boyfriend. We had been best friends forever, as long as I could remember, before I fell hard for him. I broke up with him because I suspected he didn't really like me--it turns out he did. Anyway, he now has a girlfriend. I feel like I still love him, and I can't remember whether I even really stopped loving him or not.
I don't want to hurt the guy I'm with, because I love him as well! I honestly don't know what to do. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
20/f
First of all, tell your boyfriend how you're feeling. That might seem a little strange, but if you're in a loving, trusting relationship then the two of you can work it out together, and he won't be suspicious of things that might be happening and/or hurt if he finds out by some other means. I know I would want my boyfriend to tell me anything like that. Plus, it might help you to figure out if you are happier staying with your boyfriend or if you are really going to dwell on your ex for a long time.
As for what you should do after that, you have to follow your heart. That sounds cliche, I know. But you have to figure out where you will be most happy. Can you stay with your boyfriend and accept your feelings for your ex as a passing phase, since you two shared so much history as friends? Or are you willing to take a chance -- and it is a chance, with your ex, and risk losing both him and your boyfriend. If you think you're truly still in love with your ex, I'd talk to him first before losing all chances with your current boyfriend, because your ex has a girlfriend and may not be as willing to break up with her.
Whatever you do, make sure that you're going to be happy, and that you are changing your situation for the better; that you'll have no regrets. I hope all goes well.
Love,
Nevaeh
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Thank you so much.
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