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This guy that I'm friends with invited me and another girl over to his house to watch a hockey game. Well I had already made plans with my father to go to the show, so I couldnt go. Well my the other girl (who has a severe crush) on this guy didnt have a problem with going alone without me to his house.
Well anyways I found out the next day that he was choked at me because he had to give my friend money for a cab ride home, since she doesnt have a car. I have a car but couldnt give her a ride there and back because I had already made plans with my dad. This guy is acting really cold towards me now.
Well I have two theories about why this happened. Either A: he's jealous I have a good relationship with my father, or B. He likes me as more than a friend and was upset that I didnt go to his house? And maybe he just invited the other girl cause he's shy and would be more comfortable with her and me there?
Either way, I think he was being a jerk. The other thing I thought was maybe something happened between my friend who has the crush on him that night. Like maybe she made a pass at him, or was telling him nasties about me.
What do you think is going on? (link)
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My guess is that your guy friend was mainly peeved at the fact that he had to pay for your girlfriend's cab fare. I wasn't able to get whether or not this guy and your female friend have been really good friends or not. Whatever the case, your girlfriend should have made prior arrangements for getting home. I think the guy is going a little overboard by being pissy with you, but perhaps he thought the two of you would have worked things out before your friend showed up at his place alone. I figure he originally thought transportation would be taken care of by you should you have been able to go. Again, your girlfriend made the mistake of not making plans and relying on this guy to be responsible for her trip home. That wasn't exactly fair. Maybe she thought that because she has a crush on him that he has one on her and that this was sort of a date (which it wasn't considering he had asked the two of you). Thus, she expected him to pay her way which was totally unreasonable. You might try talking to both friends: 1) ask your girlfriend to pay back the cab fare since she was not on a date; and 2) tell your guy friend that you had no idea this would have happened and that you didn't even think about her not arranging a way home. And, ask this guy why in the world he's so peeved with YOU! P.S. If this guy is really into you, he might have been put on the spot by your friend going to his home alone. Perhaps he would have preferred that you be there and since you couldn't, then maybe your friend shouldn't have gone, though I understand why she did since she has such a crush on him. Do YOU like this guy as more than a friend? And, how good a friend is your girlfriend? Would she try to weasel in on a possible budding relationship between you and this guy? Hopefully that wouldn't be the case and I'm definitely NOT assuming that it is since I know nothing of your relationship with either of these people. If you do like this guy, maybe, if you haven't already, you need to talk about this with your girlfriend and clear the air.
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Thanks!! Yes i think you're right about everything you said! Great advice!
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