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I'm an 29 year old guy.I'll always do my best to give well considered and sincere advice - give me your best shot. P.S. Don't be afraid to ask me private questions, I rarely spend a lot of time answering non-private questions.
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my mom keeps telling me to do chores like take out the trash, do the dishes, and other stuff.but when i ask her to help she says it's not her job. so i ask then what is your job. and she says to be the mom. and so after that she orders me to do the dishs. and i say you do them. and she says you have to earn your keep. and so i say you dont earn your keep you dont even have a job. so i get grounded. why sould i work when my mom dos'nt. i dont think i was put on this planet to do dishes. and im not her robot. but i dont wanna be grounded. should i alpolage and destroy my pride or should i hold my feet down and stay grounded.
sorry it was so long.
i'll rate a 5 no matter what
It doesn't sound like you have a very good relationship with your mum, and I hope you don't mind me saying so, but it doesn't sound like you have a very good mum either. (mum = Australian version of mom)
She's your parent for god's sake! She should be there to help you out. That's what being a mum IS. If she pulls the line of being a parents again, then tell her that part of the package is to care, and to help you. Personally, if I had parents that sound as neglectful as she does, then I'd be getting a part time job, and either renting a small apartment, or just doing everything for myself. If she really doesn't care then you should just cook for yourself, clean up the dishes you make, and do your own laundry - she couldn't complain that you weren't pulling your own weight.
That is a rather stressful life for some people, I know it would be for me, so the best thing I think you can do is try to show your mum that it really is part of her duty to care for you. She probably does care, after all you're her kid, but she just might not have much of a clue.
I think maybe you have to demand that she listens to you - my mum never listened to me, until I started to refuse to argue with her - the most important thing for you is to try and get her to understand how you feel about things, and come to some compromise that she's happy with.
Just remember, it's probably more difficult being a good parent than you think, so you shouldn't be too annoyed if she still wants you to do some of the chores around the place -accept it.
The bottom line; Apologise for being rude, and tell her you want to talk. She's not allowed to storm out on you, and if she does, then (urgh, really shitty situation) I'd try again, then consider something worse, like moving out (maybe that would bring her around - if it didn't, at least you'd be out of there). Any way things go, things will probably get better. Better than slouching around grounded, mad with your mother.
-K
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Well, I didn't know you're 13! You didn't say so -.^
Anyway, it's still an option to move out of home if you're in a REALLY bad situation. There are houses that provide carers, and stuff like that.
(Rating: 5) a little to much for me, and hello im 13. but good advice i'll try it