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I am 15 year old male, gay, and attending High School. In the past year, I've come to terms with who I am and I've come out to 2 of my friends. My huge problem is that nobody my age comes out of the closet so I am going to be single for a while. I am despretely lonely and wanting someone to sweep me off my feet. I just feel so deprest and want to have a boyfriend like all the other straight couples have where you love each other and understand each other and comfort one another. My problem is that there is this guy that I like but he has no clue I exist. I think that he is gay. The signs are that he is in tennis, went to tennis camp and is trying out for the tennis team, is in drama class, his eyebrows look plucked, he looks well made up and his hair is curly and conditioned, he is fit, and all his friends are strangely attractive. I also see the way he looks at guys and can kinda tell. I really want to become friends with him so that I can be around him and be happy and possibly get him to come out to me and maybe even become my boyfriend but I don't know how to go up to him and become his friend. It's like I can't just walk up to him and say hey what's up because we don't know each other so I was thinking of bringing up tennis because I've started taking lessons and stuff and I'm going to try out for the team just so I can be there with him and possibly go to his camp and get closer to him. I just don't know how to become his friend or how to talk to him. What should I do?

I don't want to be the one to discourage homosexuality, but I think perhaps the best way to go about things is to keep it out of school. Sure it's alright to meet the guy at school, but I would really recommend keeping displays of affection MILES away from school. There are some real homophobes around at your age, and being openly gay will probably make your school life a living hell.
That said, I think you would be perfectly fine just walking up to him and saying hey, even if he doesn't know you. I say so, because if he were gay he'd probably give you a chance... but you don't seem to want to do that, so I'll try to think of something else. But seriously, you could go up and compliment his tennis and take it from there. (Ok, I can't think of anything else) Really, the only way you're going to meet him is if you get talking to him somehow, so just leave all of your opportunities open. Maybe if you make sure you smell nice, and pull his trick he'll figure out you're gay, and approach you.
Lastly, be prepared if he isn't gay. Some guys are pretty feminine, yet still retain their sexual orientation - I've been called gay by a lot of people, but I've never been, and as far as I can tell, never will be homosexual. I just try to be nice for the girls. Maybe he's doing the same, so you should always be ready to leave him behind if he's straight. Nothing is worse than trying to be converted when you know you're straight (well, I wouldn't know, but I can imagine X_X)

Hope I've given you some ideas, or the confidence to talk to him, but once again, I'd try to keep it out of school. 15, 16, even some adults are morons, and you don't want them to screw up your life.

-K

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(Rating: 5) I agree with everything you say but I don't thnk I should have to hide who I am from nobody. I'm me and if they dont like it they can suck me and that would be thoroughly enjoying lol

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