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Alright, I am 16 and I live with my twin sister, my 19 year old brother, and my mom. She has always been pretty overprotective, especially after my dad died of brain cancer. But recently it has gotten uncontrollable. She makes up stupid excuses so I can't go hang out with my best friend. She acts like she doesn't trust me but when I ask her why she doesn't she doesn't give a reason. I have a feeling that the reason she doesn't want me going places is because she doesn't want me growing up so fast. I am going to be a Junior in High school this year and then I will be graduating in 2007 and going to college. She needs to understand that I am becoming more independent and will be an adult soon. She even went as far as keeping me from getting my liscence until I finally was able to convince her to allow me to get it. If anyone has any advice for me about how I can get my mom to give me more indepedence and actually try to listen to my side of the view.

Hey. First off, I want to say I'm very sorry about your dad. I think that might be one of the reasons your mom is so overprotective. She's already lost someone she loves, and she doesn't want to lose another. But there are things you can do to get more independence:

1) Take responsibility - meaning, doing your chores and homework without being told. For ex. if your mom is going to work late, offer to make dinner for your family. It not only helps you build some of the life skills you need to take care of yourself, but it also shows your mom that you understand that being independent isn't just doing what you want.

2) Be respectful - if you give her the respect she wants, then she'll start treating you like the mature person that you are

Try talking to her about how you feel. She's used to treating you like a child, so it'll take time, but she'll eventually get the message and start treating you with more respect, responsibility, and most importantly, give you more freedom. I hope this helped.
♥ Erin

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