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My uncle (and cousins) are feeling great depression. A few months ago my aunt died. Since then many things have been going downhill from there. He forgets to pick up my cousins from various acivities and hasn't been feeding them for the past few days. My older cousins (from my aunt's first marrige) have taken taken the the ones closer to my age to their apartment for a few days (I am not sure if they are back home yet). My dad went down there for the weekend to help things out but I'm not sure how much of a difference this will make. This is because I found out today my uncle has lost his job. This means it is even harder for him to surrport his kids. We were inviting the children to spend the summer up here (we still are) but now we are woried they are going to move up here. It is not that we don't want them here is is that it is hard to move your whole live to a new state a such an age they are.
Now my question is what can I do to help? Is there any advice I could have my parents give to my uncle (it would be weird taking advice from his niece)? Intelligent answers only. If y@ typ3 lyk th!$ don't answer. THank you.
I'm sorry. I know this is a really tough situation, not just for rest of your family, but you too. And I commend the fact that you want to help :)
Yes, if they do move in with you, it will be difficult, not just for your cousins, but for the rest of your household as well. What can you do to help? Well, you can be as emotionally supportive to your cousins as you can be. Be there to comfort them, be there to listen, try to be their friend. Make sure that they get out of the house on a regular basis and have fun. They're still kids, and even in the midst of this tragedy, they need to act like kids and have a childhood. Believe me, having a chance to be a child, feeling safe and secure, is important. Protect that feeling of safety and security. Let them be children...
As for your uncle, sorry to say but there is no miracle advice that will pull him out of his stupor. Everyone copes with death differently, that's what he's trying to do, though it may seem like he has given up completely...And ultimately, your uncle is the only one that can heal himself. No one else. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness. I know, it sucks. We all wish we had super powers or magic wands so that we could fix other people, but people have to fix themselves. It's the way we were made dearie :)
Hopefully, losing his job, and having his children move away because he is unable to take care of them will cause him to adjust his perspective and provide the motivation he needs to start picking up the pieces of his life.
Anyway, sorry I don't have the miracle advice. But if you ever need to talk, don't hesitate to leave me a note in my inbox. Will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers...Adieu ;)
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