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ok well i have this boyfriend i love him him soo much and he loves me too and he wants a kid reallie badd and i do too and we kinda said we want one but im afraid of my parents reaction if i did end up getting pregnant. and i mean im scared becuz my da tends to have a very bad temper problem like one time i juss wanted to go to my room and so he grabbed the bak of my head and literally threw me into my room and made my head hit the wall and i cut it open on a tack thing and so i tried to walk past him to get a wet rag and he wouldnt let me! and so im not afraid of my moms reaction becuz all she would do is give me andvice and help me raise it and tell me i was stupid and kik me out of the house cuz they said if i mess up reallie badly one more time im out of the house its my dads reaction im afraid of becuz when he gets madd he juss like blacks out and doesnt kno wat hes doing until its done and my boyfriend says that if my dad tried to hurt me that he would defend me and hit my dad and all but i dont want anyone to get hurt you know? but you have no idea how badd i want a baby!!!! and if i did get pregnant i'd want it to be my boyfriends baby. im juss afraid of my dad he scares me more than anyone i have ever known in my life
answer as fast as you can plz!!
Please forgive me in advance. I know that what I am about to say is going to be down right ugly. But I'm going to say it, because you need to hear it. Please understand that I say this, not to insult your intelligence, but out or concern.
If you are worring about what Mommy and Daddy would do if you got pregnant, you are not old enough to have a child. If you are still living under your parents' roof, you are not old enough to have a child. You are not old enough, and you are unprepared.
And this is why...
Are you still in school? If so, how do you intend to financially support a baby? Are you going to quit, and go out and get a full-time job? If so, please consider this...With no education it is EXTREMELY difficult to find a well paying job. Most likely, you would have to work what is called a "dead-end job" (as in going NOWHERE) for very little money.
Do you expect Mom and Dad to help you? Isn't that unfair? You would be giving them an extra mouth to feed, when they didn't have any input whatsoever. Do you think that is just a little inconsiderate? And this is why you shouldn't have children until you can financially support yourself and have enough left over to support another person as well. Don't have a kid until you can afford one.
Are you prepared to raise a child? Are you willing to watch them every moment of every day? Are you willing to give up sleeping at night, so that you can be there for them when they cry? Are you willing to even change a diaper? What are you going to do when they get in trouble? Say goodbye to your social life, say goodbye to school, say goodbye to your free time. A child is more work than any full-time job. Because you can never clock out!
And again, if you are expecting your parents to help you with this, that's really inconsiderate. Now, not only are you giving them a financial burden, you're giving them an emotional burden as well. They now have to help you raise a child, when it sounds like they haven't even finished raising their own children yet. If they didn't have a hand in the plan, why should it be their responsibility?
Basicly, what I am saying is, if your dad got really angry...I could understand. This isn't just your mistake, it becomes his too.
Oh, and if you are thinking that your boyfriend is going to help you...He's going to have the same problem when it comes to providing for a baby. And he may want one now, but that's no guarentee that he will still want it in the future. No, I don't know him. Yes, he might love you. But take a look at all the single parents in the world, who have had their significant other bail on them when things got too difficult. It happens everyday, and it could happen to you too.
Don't make your life, or your parents life, more difficult than it has to be. Wait. You can have children, but don't until you are living in your own house, paying your own bills, old enough to see the reason in what I am saying, and have a significant other that is as prepared as you. In fact, it might be a good idea to wait until you're married. Because then, you at least have a promise that he will stay.
If your boyfriend really loves you, he can wait too. He can wait until you are both independent. Besides, if he can wait that long, then you know he'll stick around after that pregnancy test comes back positive...
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you reallie pointed out alot of good reasons of why i should reconsider having a baby before i actually did do sumthing to get that baby.
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