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How come everyone thinks im mean? all i do is tell the truth. I gues they just cant handle the truth. Do you guys appreciate it when people tell you the truth or stupid lies? I would rather know the truth not stupid lies people tell me to feel better gosh.
Whats your opinion
Ya_gots_to_luv_me :)
You should be honest. (Don't start lying just to make people happy.) However, what you say can sometimes be less important than how you say it.
What I mean be this is...When I am telling the someone the truth, and I know that what I have to say might hurt their feelings, I try to be gentle. I usually start by telling them how much I care about them, that I understand their perspective, and then try to phrase things in the most sensitive way. I try to avoid getting angry and using negative language. Most people understand that I am not trying to attack them, and as a result don't become so defensive.
You also have to know when telling the truth isn't necessary. Someone gave a pretty good example. If your best friend is overweight, and she's complaining about being fat, telling her that she is really isn't necessary. Doesn't mean you have to lie, it simply means that you should observe the old addage, "If you don't have anything nice to say than don't say anything at all."
I try to reserve the truth for situations that really need it. I tell the truth when I feel like lying or remaining silent would either hurt someone else or myself. I tell the truth when I'm asked for my honest opinion. Etc., etc., etc...
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