I am 13 and in the 8th grade. I am homeschooled and want to go back to school. I have been homeschooled since I was in the 6th grade (just in time to start Jr.High). I miss getting to hang out with all my friends from 5th grade. Yes, I've made friends through homeschool but it just not the same. I don't live a normal life. I mean I never have homework, i don't have to get up as early as my friends, If I want to I can extra school work and move up a grade, I'm even doing 9th grade History. My mom wants me to stay homeschooled, she has even tried to bribe me with a trip to Jersulem (which I really want to go there), but only if stay homeschooled all the way through school. I really want to go back to school, but I also want to stay homeschooled. What should I do????
Hello my dear.
I was homeschooled through half of junior high and half of high school, so I understand how you must be feeling. You are not alone :) While homeschooling does have advantages, it has a lot of disadvantages too.
When I told my parents that I wanted to quit homeschool, initially they weren't very receptive to the idea either. I think that your mother might think that you'll do better academically if you stick to homeschooling. She also might be afraid that if you return to public school, you might get mixed up with the wrong crowd. It's surprisingly easy nowadays.
However, she needs to understand that at 13, being normal is a high priority. (I'm guessing this is what you may be feeling.) You want to be surrounded by your peers. Adults might think that being normal and peers are very silly indeed. But it's not. It's actually a big part of your social and psychological development.
You and your mom need to sit down a discuss the situation in depth. You need to ask her why exactly she wants you to stay homeschooled, and you need to make it clear how you feel and how important to you it is. The two of you need to investigate other options, like for example private schools. There also homeschooling programs that you can get into, that will not only prepare you for college, but where you would adhere to a more "normal" lifestyle. While your classes would be smaller, you would adhere to a schedule and be among more people your own age. There are a lot of options.
I would like to add that whatever you two decide, you should make it by before the end of the school year. If you decide to go to a public school, you need to get in before the onset of high school. Mainly because, if you don't and later decide to go back to school, getting into high school after your freshman years all ready started could be difficult.
You and your mother need to understand each other and come to some sort of compromise if possible. And if what you really want is to quit homeschool, you need to be persistant. Don't let her dangle that trip over your head if this is what you really want. Your emotional needs are important, and she needs to recognize that. Hopefully, you can come to some new agreement. Maybe she could take to you Jerusalem if you make good grades, or do well on your SAT's.
I hope I was able to provide you with some help. Please visit my inbox or feedback if you have any further questions. Good luck to you ;)
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Thank you. i will try and talk with her about it. I'm glad that I can talk to someone who can relate to me.
Skittlez
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