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Can't choose
I am 13 and in the 8th grade. I am homeschooled and want to go back to school. I have been homeschooled since I was in the 6th grade (just in time to start Jr.High). I miss getting to hang out with all my friends from 5th grade. Yes, I've made friends through homeschool but it just not the same. I don't live a normal life. I mean I never have homework, i don't have to get up as early as my friends, If I want to I can extra school work and move up a grade, I'm even doing 9th grade History. My mom wants me to stay homeschooled, she has even tried to bribe me with a trip to Jersulem (which I really want to go there), but only if stay homeschooled all the way through school. I really want to go back to school, but I also want to stay homeschooled. What should I do????
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Hun, you should do what you know will make you happy. These are the days of your life. Middle school is an "ok" experience. But high school is a blast. There are so many different people. And you make new friends each day. Jerusulem will always be there but you only live once and trust me your teenage years are going to fly right past you. Even though you dont have to get up so early each morning (lucky you) its fun when you go to school and meet and greet those you are friends with. You should relly talk to your mom. And it is not right for her to bribe you to stay homeschooled. She's is just using Jerusulem as bait to get you to do what she wants. And if you have to bribed to get homeschooled than thats a sure sign that deep down you want to go back to school. Good Luck with your mom...;>
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Woohoo!! Homeschoolers rock!! (I'm homeschooled!) Ok, I think you should stay homeschooled. I've never been to a public school, so it's a little different for me. I'm going to be homeschooled all the way through highschool. I used to be the same way, not really have the friends and stuff, wanting to go to public school and all, but I know now that homeschooling is so much BETTER!!! Boo ya!! You can be just as close to homeschoolers as you can public schoolers. (my friends and I are so close that we call each other "brother" and "sister".. cause we're weird like that!) I think homeschoolers have better educations normally too, because they have a one-on-one time with the teacher (which is mom, usually) and can work more at their own pace. I'm in two different grades in different subjects, and it's not because I'm just plain smart. (though I'd like to say that it's because I'm just plain smart!) A trip to Jersulem sounds awesome!! I'd take that!! And you mentioned some awesome things about homeschooling, "you never have homework" and "don't have to get up as early". But you forgot some.
-can sit anywhere (basically) to do school
-don't have to tie your shoes
-don't have to ask for permission to go to the bathroom
-don't need a hall pass
-can finish work at lunchtime (I do sometimes)
-don't have to change clothes in front of other people for PE
-don't have to worry about pimples showing at school
-bad hair days don't really matter
-don't have to wear fashionable clothes
-not as much peer pressure all the time
There's more, but you get the idea. You can still talk to your friends from grade school, you don't have to give that up!! Get thier AIM screen names and e-mail addresses, and talk!! You could probably visit them and stuff too! When you're homeschooled, you don't have as much temptation to have premarital sex, do drugs, drink, shoplift and more; because you're not around the bad influences all the time. It's your descision, but I'd stay homeschooled. Set a good example!! Pray about it, take it to God. He wants to hear it from you! God bless
-FunnyCide
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Hello my dear.
I was homeschooled through half of junior high and half of high school, so I understand how you must be feeling. You are not alone :) While homeschooling does have advantages, it has a lot of disadvantages too.
When I told my parents that I wanted to quit homeschool, initially they weren't very receptive to the idea either. I think that your mother might think that you'll do better academically if you stick to homeschooling. She also might be afraid that if you return to public school, you might get mixed up with the wrong crowd. It's surprisingly easy nowadays.
However, she needs to understand that at 13, being normal is a high priority. (I'm guessing this is what you may be feeling.) You want to be surrounded by your peers. Adults might think that being normal and peers are very silly indeed. But it's not. It's actually a big part of your social and psychological development.
You and your mom need to sit down a discuss the situation in depth. You need to ask her why exactly she wants you to stay homeschooled, and you need to make it clear how you feel and how important to you it is. The two of you need to investigate other options, like for example private schools. There also homeschooling programs that you can get into, that will not only prepare you for college, but where you would adhere to a more "normal" lifestyle. While your classes would be smaller, you would adhere to a schedule and be among more people your own age. There are a lot of options.
I would like to add that whatever you two decide, you should make it by before the end of the school year. If you decide to go to a public school, you need to get in before the onset of high school. Mainly because, if you don't and later decide to go back to school, getting into high school after your freshman years all ready started could be difficult.
You and your mother need to understand each other and come to some sort of compromise if possible. And if what you really want is to quit homeschool, you need to be persistant. Don't let her dangle that trip over your head if this is what you really want. Your emotional needs are important, and she needs to recognize that. Hopefully, you can come to some new agreement. Maybe she could take to you Jerusalem if you make good grades, or do well on your SAT's.
I hope I was able to provide you with some help. Please visit my inbox or feedback if you have any further questions. Good luck to you ;)
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