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Hey-i was reading through your column and i really liked the advice you were giving so i was wondering if you could help me out with a situation i have:
alrite so beginning of this year (i was still a junior in high school) i met a guy (a senior in high school who's now a freshman in college) through my best friend's boyfriend and one nite after all 4 of us hanging out i ended up hooking up with him. When it started out, neither of us was looking for a relationship, i was just looking to gain experience so i figured it was a great idea. Long story short-i went pretty far with him and got attached-towards the end of the school year we found out we both really liked each other, we went to prom together and were hooking up monogamously for about 4 months but he never asked me out-finally middle of summer he said he didn't wanna lead me on but he really didn't want a gf when he was gonna be leaving for college in a month-i told him i understood but naturally i was heartbroken. So i didn't see him the rest of the summer, i've just heard stories about him hooking up with other girls which killed me...literally but i finally finally got over him (its been a long long road). Anyways he's back for thanksgiving break and i haven't gotten play in awhile-so this friday we are getting together-im really worried cuz when i see him i don't know if i will have the strength to turn down hooking up with him, but i definitely know i don't have the strength to get over him again-at the same time....i desperately need play LOL. What do u think i should do?!?!
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heY! thanx bY the way! bUt ne ways... uMmm i totally know what u mean!! buT you know that you guys aren't going to have a relationship... and u mentioned that it took u forever 2 get over him and that it killed you 2 hear he was hooking up with other girls... ahhh i've been in this situation before... kinda... but thats beside the point... yea u really don't want 2 get hurt like u said.. but yet again u dont want 2 turn him down. chances r hes just gonna be lookin 2 hook up and myabe thats what u wanna do 2... but dont want 2 experience everything again. aHhH oMg... this is hard. the best and most obvious answer is dont go for it... and turn him down... but if u actually put urself in the situation... its hard! so i personally wouldnt want 2 feel like crap again... so i dont think i could go for it.... but even just thinking about him after he leaves is gonna make u feel like crap 2... u dont wanna regret NoT hooking up with him... if u havent gotten any in a while... u dont have 2 worry about that... i'm sure theres lines of guys at ur school hoping for a hookup with u... ur have 2 consider how ur gonna feel when u leave and realize that hooking up is gonna be all for u guys... and hearing him hook up with more girls when he leaves is gonna kill u more... i dont really have a 100% answer... bt take all that into consideration... it sounds better if u guys just remain friends... but in reality... its kinda up 2 u! good luck with this! and im me sometime or drop 1 in my box and let me know how it goes! i hope i helped!
(Rating: 5) thanks for the awesome advice-i get what you are saying tho, there are just so many sides to this situation its just hard to choose. i think id be happy just talkin to him cuz i haven't seen him such a long time. Thank you so much for your help you are awesome :)