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Hey, My name is Mandy Marie. I'm an Australian and always will be one. I still own the accent, but I live in the US. I recently just moved from Miami Beach to New York City. I like : Long walks, cars, paintball, hockey, football, painting, drawling, designing, sculptures, sewing, gum, guys, animals, surfing, bungee jumping, sky diving, pizza, fries, movies, I like throwing gum at the walls and laughing so hard it hurts my stomach, I love to sing in the shower, dance on the highway, cuddling, hugging, kissing, talking, I love to run up and down the stairs, get kicked out of stores, to go to a restaurant and bring my own food, I like to make a nice tropical drink, I like to stare at the stars, to hold hands, to just drive around not knowing where I'm going, to take road trips.
I want: to own my own sex shop called "Getting Freaky in the Basement" or just pretend I have one.
I am: really nice, I promise! I will do my best to help you. I've been through murders, deaths, abusive relationships, eating disorders, breakups, losing my family and my friends, giving up something you have your heart set on. Please ask me whatever you want. I will always listen to you and I respect whatever decision you make.
For more about me: A survey. Yessss! (You have got to be so bored by now. Half of you haven't even read this far..)
Basic Questions!!
First name- Mandy
Middle name- Marie
Do you like your name?- Uh, it's okay.
Are you named after anyone?- No, not really.
Who?-
Birthday- March 20th, I will be 20 soon! Yes!
Current age- 19
Where you were born- Sydney, Australia
Where you currently live- New York City, close to Manhattan
Your looks and body!!
Face shape- Oval.
Skin tone- Beige.
Do you have acne?- No.
Hair color- Blonde, currently has black and red streaks in it.
Hair texture- Straight.
Hair style- It's usually down and straight, or in pigtails.
Hair length- Past my shoulders.
Eye color- A dark blueish green color.
Eye shape- Um, regular? Circle? What the hell!?
How big are your eyes?- What?!
Do you wear contacts or glasses?- Neither.
How about braces? Have/had them?- Never had them, no.
Do you have straight teeth?- Yep.
Are they really white?- I would hope so.
Do you have high cheekbones?- Wow.
Long eyelashes?- Yeah.
Do you wear makeup?- Mostly.
What kind of makeup do you use?- MAC or Estee Lauder, Stila, Chanel, Urban Decay, LORAC, Pout. It all varies, I like to play around.
What brand of makeup do you use?- Because I'm such a dipshit I answered it above. *shrugs*
What shoe size do you wear?- 6 ..okay, so I have small feet. Kill me!
Ring size?- 4.
Belt size?- Um...
Pant size?- 4
Shirt size?- small
How tall are you?- 5'6
Happy with it?- I could be taller.
Your weight- 113
Happy with it?- I guess.
Do you exercise a lot?- Sometimes. Probably not enough though.
What kind of exercising do you do?- Well, does dancing count? How about walking?
Are you 'toned'?- Are you a fucking "tard"?
Muscular?- Oh baby! Check out my 8 pack. Kidding, gosh!
Overweight?- Nope.
Are you in shape?- Sure.
You and School!!
What school do you attend?- I go to college now.
What grade are you in?- Sophmore in college.
What classes are you taking?- My major is art.
What's your favorite one?- Art.
Least favorite?- ::::
Favorite teacher- :::::
What class do they teach?- ::::
Least favorite teacher- :::
What class do they teach?- Okay, seriously...
How many schools have you ever attended?- 3.
Are you in any clubs?- Oh.
What ones?- My.
What about school plays?- God.
Musicals?- No.
Do you go to a lot of school dances?- No.
Are you full of school spirit?!?!?- Hahaha, I never was.
Ever got detention?- Never once.
Suspended?- No.
Expelled?- No.
advice
Okay, I know that there have been many questions on the subject, but I looked, and I haven't found any other question/answers that were helpful. Okay, well here goes. I've gotten so addicted to cutting, that lately I've been doing it in class. I even cut my initials into my skin. Well today I got caught, and I was telling a friend about it, and my 4th period teacher heard. Well after the test in that class, she called me into the hall because we were allowed to do anything, and I got out a needle, and when that teacher saw she called me out. Then she was all like you know what you do is dangerous and stuff, and I was like yes... and she said other stuff like I care about you, and want you to stop, and I was like yeah, whatever. Well, now I really want to stop, but I can't it's like I'm addicted. I want to end my life, yet I want to live. And so now, I don't know how to stop. And I would bring it up to one or both of the teachers that know, but I wouldn't know how to bring it up, and I'm afraid that they would tell my parents, and my parents wouldn't sympathize, they would get really mad, trust me I know. So I was wondering, how might I get over this addiction, and if I were to tell the teacher that I need help, then how would I bring it up. What would you do to get help, and if you were to ask a teacher for help, what would you say. And if you were a cutter, but no longer cut, I'd like to hear your stories, no matter how long! Thanks a bunch!
Sorry it's so long, but I'm really worried about how far I might take this.
Okay sweetie, I'm not going to state that you need to stop, you probably already know you need to because you are asking for help. So instead, I will just give you ideas. I never was a cutter so I can't imagine the pain you're going through. Just realize that it doesn't matter if the reasons why you cut are little or big, the problem is the reasons itself. Now I'm sure there are some things you can change, but for others that may be a little harder. There are some easier ways to solve this rather than hurting yourself. I'm sure you have already heard of writing things down or talking to someone. But you know what? That really does help for some people. So I would give it a try.
Talking to adults might seem very stange because they are at a whole other stage in life, so it would be best to find someone around your age that you can share all your problems with. That way you wouldn't be lectured on the things that you'll hear over and over again from adults. (Examples- the yelling, and the screaming that you might get.) Friends are good for the problems, getting help would be more likely something an adult can help you with. Your teacher says she cares, and she probably means that. So take that into consideration and talk to her because she's concerned. If you approach her in a mature manner, she will know that you're serious about keeping this confidential. Ask her if there is a time after school or when she has free time to talk to her about a problem of yours. Once you set up a time then you can ask her what you can do to get help. I'm sure she'll know some places or people that can help you. I think it would be very, very hard to get help without your mother knowing. The fact that you want to get help should be the most concerning area right now. Keep in mind, you can't control your mother's actions. What she says and does is controlled by her. But if she is mad just explain that you know you shouldn't have cut yourself, but you want to break this habit. You're serious about this, and she should be too. And you have your teachers who will still help you.
For being thirteen, you are really smart. You probably know most people don't consider getting the help they need. If you get help and get your problems out of the way you should be fine. And it is a lot harder than it sounds. But I really think sharing stories with other cutters will help you as well. So here is a link to a message board if you ever want someone who you can relate to. http://groups.msn.com/CutItOut/abuse.msnw
* Let me know if that works if you want, if not i'll get others for you :) *
Anyways, you should be proud because you're already on the first step - Admit to having a problem. I seriously hope that you get the help you need, and I wish you the best. If you ever want anything again, let me know. Take care babe!
Love,
Mandee
(Rating: 5) That was maybe the BEST advice I was given. You are awesome, I'm going to take what you say into serious consideration, and You are a GREAT columnist, and I'm not just saying that!!!!!!!!