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okay, me and my ex bf went out for a year and were TOTALLY inlove with eachother we even talked about marrying eachother..we broke up about a year ago over a big fight..It was becuase he was trying to get with this other girl at like the last few days of our relationship, and then when he would try and apalogize just to become friends again, he would go off and talk so much crap about me..he did me wrong and hurt me so bad..its been a WHOLE YEAR and im still not over his ass..plzzz dont tell me, girl its been a year get over him, because TRUST ME thats whut ive been trying to do :[...im a really good looking girl, smart, ambitious, respectful..and with him, yeah hes really good looking, funny, etc, but he didnt even graduate from highschool, he smokes/drinks all the time, gets in fights, back stabs ppl, etc, but like NO1 sees that in him because he is SOO funny and makes every1 laugh,etc so they dont see the bad qualities in him..he gets alota girlz, etc..i dunno i just cannot stop thinking about him and its been so friggin long, like 4 hours cant go by in my day that I dont think about him..He changed my life so damn much, for the better and for the worst...i wonder if he ever thinks of me, i mean i was his first gf, his first love, his highschool sweetheart, etc...im still only a junior, and still have 2 years left of highschool...im just really down...plz help me if you can..
thanks so much

I know how that felt, it took me almost a year to get over a guy I liked. So, I'm not going to say "Just get over him, there's other fish in the sea" but, there is a couple of solutions that you can try in this situation. Maybe you could try talking to him (calling him up, talking to him face-to-face, e-mailing him a letter, or talking to him on AIM/AOL) and just telling him kind of what you just told us. Just tell him how you feel and stuff and you would like to know how he feels about you. If you want to do this one, try saying something like "I know it's been a WHOLE year that we've been broken up from each other. But, I want to tell you the truth and I'm hoping you will tell me the truth too. So, I guess I'll start off with, I still love you. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of you and I just wonder if you EVER think of me too. I mean I was your first girlfriend and we were BOTH our first love and high school sweethearts. You taught me so much and changed me for the best and for the worst. We talked about marrying each other and we went out for 3 years! And that's a long time to go out. I can't just get over you like that, I mean I know it's been a year, but you can't forget your first love... and I just want to know how you feel about me, if you're just having fun or if you're still in love with me..." Just say something like that and just say stuff you mean and you would want him to know and ask him things you want to know. If you don't want that, then I would suggest just TRYING to move on. I know it will be hard. But, if you really want to move on, then you're going to have to try. I mean after all you only live life once. So, try and have fun with it (not saying to do stupid stuff, you know what I mean by that). I mean go to parties, the mall, have friends introduce you to guys that they think you would like, etc. Do things that will keep your mind off of him. And the number one thing is, don't compare every guy to your ex boyfriend because that won't get you very far. And try to think of things that were mean that your ex boyfriend did or even said to you so then that will try to get you over him. So, I hope you pick the right one and go with it. Just follow your heart. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much, ur so understanding! xoxo
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