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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!textarea.Skem9box {width:200px; height:100px;color:White;font-size:11pt;font-family:Times New Roman;background-color:Black;}
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Hey everyone, Siren here...I'm lost on this. Here's my shpiel:
This girl has been my best friend for around 13 years. Last year, I got a boyfriend and she got really clingy; called me every day wanting to hang out. It drove me nuts, but I think she stopped calling once she realized I wouldn't abandon her.
That was the start. Now, I never wanna hang with her anymore...Being around her bothers me, and I can't figure out why.
She sits with me and my choir friends at lunch, but she doesn't speak to them, only me, and when she does, it's off topic. She'll interrupt a convo I'm having with another friend to talk to me about something else and it's...grr. I feel like I wanna talk to her sometimes, but I almost don't want her to sit with us...
I know sometimes friendships die, but I really don't want to lose her, and I hate feeling like I don't wanna be around her. I used to tell her EVERYTHING, all my secrets...she used to know the most about me of any of my friends, but I stopped telling her because she doesn't seem to...care?
It might be that I grew up a lot, and she hasn't quite, but I'm not sure that's the only thing that's screwing up our friendship. I'm sixteen and a girl, she's seventeen, if that makes any sort of a difference.
What should I do about this? I asked my dad (he's a psychiatrist) and he didn't know what to do; neither did my mom...so I turn to y'all.
I've been through the same thing. And you're right, sometimes friends do grow up and seperate. maybe you are a little more mature than her and she just hasn't reached your level yet. If you really wanan keep her as a friend, you will give her some time to grow up and catch up with you. Eventually you will be able to understand eachother again. I know its hard right now though, dealing with her annoyingness and all, but it will all turn out good in the end, just give it some time. You guys have been friends for a long time, and theres gonna be a time when one of you are gonna need eachother so don't ruin your friendship.
(Rating: 5) Guess I'll just hafta hang in there...thanks =)