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I have this gut feeling that my brother is gay. I really believe that he is. I don't have a problem with it or anything because I love gay people. His best friend is bisexual even though he won't admit it. He's kissed guys in the back of school and I've seen him and he also kisses girls. So I pretty much know he's bi. So getting back to my brother, I just really think that he's gay! I swear it's like i have gay-dar or something like that, he's always staring at my boyfriend when he comes over, when he has his friends over, they are in his room for like 2 freakin hours WITH THE DOOR LOCKED and if he hears me walking up to the door he yells at me. I mean come on, he's never had a girlfriend and he always says he doesn't want one and that he'd never get married. He says, and I will quote, "Girls are a waste of my time." When I told some of my friends that I thought he was gay, they all responded with "I always knew something was up with your brother." Or something along those lines. Even guys that barely know my brother say that he's gay. My only worry is that my dad is homophobic, and my mom said that she'd be really upset if she found out that he was gay even though she has gay friends. How do I tell my mom of my suspicions? If it's true how would my dad react in the future when he comes out? How can I deal with this??

Well how old is your brother? If he's still very young, there may be a chance that he is not gay, and maybe just curious, like his friend. If I were you, I really wouldn't worry about it. if he is gay, eventually he will come out with it on his own, maybe he is just not ready yet, or like I said maybe he's just curious, so he's not sure if he should say anything just yet. Either way, I don't think its your job to say anything, just let time pass and see how things turn out. This really isnt't anything to worry about.

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(Rating: 5) he's 16... so yeah... thanks for the advice.
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